Contents

• Who are you?
• What is your struggle?
• How did you feel at your worst moment
• When did you turn it around?
• What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?
• Who did you share your struggle with?
• Your best piece of advice?
• Books and resources
• Learn more

Hello! Who are you?

Hi! My name is Raneisha Stassin (pronounced RUH-KNEE-SHUH) and I’m a PR consultant based in San Diego, California. Prior to San Diego, I lived in San Francisco and Belgium but I was born and raised in Arkansas. 

I’m married and have an 8-year-old son on the Autism spectrum. He is my world and I spend much of my time caring for him and working with his care team. I’m also a PR consultant so I spend a great deal of time taking care of my clients, several of whom do work in the mental health and wellness space.

I’m very much an introverted homebody but when I do leave the house it’s usually to meet with other free-spirited creatives, go to see live music, a farmers market, or to a nearby beach. I really love art, music, and dance as well!

My primary form of exercise is dance and I’ve danced my entire life. It’s a great way to release negative energy in my experience. I also love to sing, write, and read. I spend a lot of time developing routines and regimens that incorporate the arts as a form of self-care and I try to engage my son in creative expression as well.

I’m also incredibly drawn to esoteric spiritual practices and spend a great deal of time in meditation, prayer, or engaged in some sort of grounding exercise. I wouldn’t say I’m happy but these practices, and my loved ones, do allow me to have a sense of gratitude that help me overcome my darker moments.

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What is your struggle and when did it start?

This is a tough question for me because I’ve experienced “symptoms” much of my life but due to my upbringing, I had no awareness of it until much later in life.

I grew up in poverty in the rural South. Much of my early life was incredibly traumatic and abusive. I also experienced a lot of loss and grief from a very early age. My sister was murdered when I was a child, my grandmother who raised me as a young child passed away, and my older brother died suddenly in a car crash.

I was always quite hard on myself and had a difficult time appropriately expressing my emotions, especially after such losses, but because much of my family also struggled with similar issues I didn’t really notice a major issue until later in life. 

Growing up poor in the rural south I also didn’t have access to therapists. Mental illness was also heavily stigmatized in my community. However, at 26 during my divorce, I was living in the Bay Area and had more access to this type of care.

It was during my first of 4 involuntary hospitalizations that I was initially diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder Type 1 with Psychosis, Depression, and Severe Anxiety.

I was put on a number of different medications, mostly antipsychotics and mood stabilizers, and was in and out of inpatient programs, peer support groups, and 1 on 1 talk therapy sessions before I was instead diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. 

I’d also been told by other clinicians that I have traits of ADHD or even Autism, however, the Borderline Personality Disorder diagnosis made sense to me given my codependency issues and the impact relationships had on my mood.

I often struggled with fits of rage, self-harm, impulsive behavior, and codependency which led to extreme anxious attachment to my partners and episodes when perceived abandonment occurred.

I still struggle with many of these things today. I often cycle through bouts of severe depression, anxiety, or splitting episodes (black or white thinking common for those with BPD).

In the past, I didn’t understand my behavior or intense mood swings, but now I understand much of it is rooted in past trauma. Nearly everything in regard to close personal relationships can trigger or set me off.

I often describe it as living life with no skin. Everything hurts and my brain interprets every single interaction as a threat or rejection.

Having greater awareness of the root causes of my triggers and why I naturally resort to feeling unsafe and defensive helps me manage it and reduces the severity of my mood swings and episodes.

How did this struggle make you feel at your worst moments?

For a long time, I did a good job of hiding the fact that I struggled with depression. This is one I’d experienced much longer than others so it felt quite familiar to me. However, after my brother passed away unexpectedly while I was in college, I became more of a recluse.

For a while, it was easy to continue to mask my symptoms because I guarded myself by spending much of my time alone and many people just came to know me as an introvert who occasionally got a little “wild”.

I used to party a lot in my younger years, which unfortunately also makes it easier to hide such symptoms, particularly symptoms of self-harm and impulsivity.

All of my romantic relationships and interpersonal relationships were typically negatively impacted nonetheless. The few people I did let close to me came to know me as someone who was extremely emotionally volatile and some might even have the impression that I was manipulative, though I feel this is an often misunderstood characteristic of those with BPD.

In reality, I was mostly just afraid. I was never able to, and frankly still struggle, with letting my guard down with anyone. Additionally, much of my behavior was reactions to very intense emotions.

Emotional regulation is something I’ve always struggled with so having deep connections and healthy relationships have always been a struggle for me, especially in the years following my brother’s death.

I often tried describing the intensity of my emotions and why I felt they warranted what appeared to be such dramatic and often frightening reactions, but it was incredibly difficult for those close to me to understand and I didn’t have a proper name for it until I received my diagnosis only a couple of years ago in 2021.

So much of my life I felt misunderstood or alone as a result. One positive of the diagnosis is that it’s easier to communicate what’s happening to those around me, though that often comes with its own stigma as well.

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Was there a moment when you started to turn things around?

Receiving a formal diagnosis and having professionals put into words things I’ve been experiencing and give me an understanding of how my past experiences may have influenced how I process and respond to emotions definitely helped me.

I will say that while medications and traditional Western modes of healing ultimately did not work out for me, as unfortunately, BPD is still a widely misunderstood ‘disorder’ even in clinical settings, having this knowledge was the catalyst for me doing my own inner work that allowed me to better understand myself, my emotions, and my behaviors. 

I will say that treatments like CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) were helpful in providing me with a set of skills that helped me challenge my negative thoughts and behaviors, but I ultimately felt they still didn’t help me tap into the root issue of why I was experiencing these intense emotions or reactions in the first place.

Instead, giving myself permission to explore what these emotions and thoughts were really trying to communicate to me about how I felt about myself, the world, and the people around me was most healing. I personally found that journaling, spiritual practices, grounding techniques, and connecting with others in the BPD community helped me the most.

I’ve noticed the biggest change in the past year since quitting a very demanding job and really prioritizing reducing stressors and regularly connecting with those in the mental health community for support. 

What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?

By taking time to actually allow myself to safely explore my intense emotions I was able to understand that I was deeply traumatized, lacked emotional regulation skills due to my upbringing, and had severe attachment issues due to early abandonment and sudden loss.

For me, this understanding and giving myself space to feel what I feel without shame, and time to unlearn what I had unfortunately learned as a defense mechanism early in life, has helped me take steps to start shifting away from the intensity of my emotions and thoughts which in turn also helps my behavior and responses to those emotions.

Now I try to separate my identity from my thoughts and feelings and put space between those and my subsequent reactions.

In other words, when things come up for me now instead of automatically reacting in a way that feels natural for me (e.g. exploding, running away, etc.), which is often rooted in trauma, I’ve trained myself to calm my nervous system through self-care and study the root causes of these feelings and thoughts.

Unfortunately, severe Cluster B disorders are often so stigmatized that those with them don’t ever feel safe enough to truly explore their intense thoughts and emotions.

Traditional Western models typically don’t allow for those with more severely negative and harmful thoughts to have a safe space to really share them.

Oftentimes we’re perceived as a threat to ourselves and others which can stop a lot of people from really getting the support they need.

BPD (borderline personality disorder) is widely misunderstood because the episodes, impulsivity, and fits of rage can be so intense the only thing that is focused on is stopping the behaviors rather than understanding what’s causing them in the first place.

A major reason I was able to safely explore my intense emotions was that I sought out peer support groups and connected with other people in the BPD and severe mental health community who understood me and validated my need for safety, love, and support.

Peer-led support groups, self-care routines that allowed me to self-soothe, and inner work frankly have helped me more than anything else I’ve tried. It’s something I have to be super intentional about every day but I’ve seen a drastic change already.

Have you shared any of this with people around you in real life?

Due to the severity of my illness and the frequent hospitalizations I’ve had since 2019, I am very transparent about my struggles. I often had a hard time keeping up with demanding jobs, the demands of parenting, etc. when I was struggling so I had to get comfortable telling those around me that I was having a really hard time and needed help.

Oftentimes, I’d wait until I was in crisis mode when I then had no option but to get professional help. It was incredibly hard for me to learn to open up about this in professional work settings especially but I had to be transparent with my managers since I needed to focus a lot of my energy on recovery.

While I don’t necessarily recommend this to everyone, I make sure everyone who is close to me is aware since my illness is directly impacted by my interpersonal relationships and every facet of my life could potentially be impacted by that.

Typically those who are very close to me or communicate with me on a regular basis will be aware that something is wrong at some point given the nature of my illness.

I’ve found, however, that sharing my struggles has only helped me connect with others who understand and also spark important discussions that break stigma and allow others to feel safe opening up about their own struggles.

If you could give a single piece of advice to someone else that struggles, what would that be?

I wish I knew when I was younger that just because I feel awful doesn’t mean I’m an awful person. I spent much of my life hating myself because of my illnesses.

I think that people who struggle with mental illnesses, especially the more stigmatized and widely misunderstood ones, often feel shame. This can unfortunately hinder efforts to recover.

Once I learned to separate who I am as a person from my illness, specifically how it makes me think and feel, it was so much easier to really start to heal. 

What have been the most influential books, podcasts, YouTube channels, or other resources for you?

Podcasts and social media pages from those who share their firsthand experience with Borderline Personality Disorder and other Cluster B disorders help me a lot! 

The podcast I always recommend is Back from the Borderline because I love how Mollie approaches this topic from firsthand experience but also does a ton of research and brings on experts who can provide that behavioral science point of view.

She’s the perfect blend of empathetic and understanding, yet educational and insightful. I know that podcast has helped a ton of people in the BPD community feel less shame and more support which in my experience is the first step to really healing. 

I’m also connected with Emotions Matter which is a nonprofit that is raising awareness of and support for those who live with BPD.

Where can we go to learn more about you?

I have my own podcast called “Surviving and Thriving: A Podcast About Life, Mental Health, & Personal Growth” which you can find on Apple podcasts or Spotify. I’m also fairly active on Instagram where I share mental health content as well. 

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Contents

• Who are you?
• What is your struggle?
• How did you feel at your worst moment
• When did you turn it around?
• What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?
• Who did you share your struggle with?
• Your best piece of advice?
• Books and resources
• Learn more

Hello! Who are you?

Aloha! I’m Mona Kirstein, Ph.D, and I wear many hats in my life—serial entrepreneur, holistic coach & consultant, and advocate for conscious living. I live on the beautiful island of Oahu in Hawaii, where the natural surroundings serve as a constant source of inspiration for me. 

I share my life with my loving husband, and together we find peace and purpose in the simple joys of this journey called life. I’m passionate about nature, engaging in deep soulful conversations, traveling to new places, and the never-ending journey of learning. 

Currently, in my early forties, I find myself in a phase of life where I am genuinely happier than I’ve ever been. Years of self-work and embracing my true self have led me to a space where I feel not just comfortable but proud of the life I’ve created.

Empowered by my own transformative journey, I’ve dedicated my life to guiding ambitious women toward embracing and expressing their authentic selves—a gift I believe is the most precious offering we can make to ourselves and the world.

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What is your struggle and when did it start?

Life hasn’t always been this fulfilling. For decades, I lived under the shadow of Narcissistic Parental Abuse, a struggle that profoundly affected my emotional well-being. The symptoms were subtle but deeply damaging: emotional manipulation, lack of genuine affection, and constant undermining of my self-worth. 

He would dismiss my emotions, like calling me “too dramatic” or “oversensitive” if I cried. 

When I made a wrong facial expression, he’d accuse me of disrespecting him and take away privileges. He constantly twisted reality and made up stories about things I’d supposedly done wrong, grounding me for infractions that never happened. 

He crafted fictitious stories about my behavior to justify punishing me for things I never did. If I objected, it confirmed to him I was lying and disrespectful. He wove complex false narratives that made me constantly defend myself against things I never did.

I started distrusting my own memory and perception.

Even later in life, I’d share successes and he’d react with envy and disdain. Imagine telling your dad you’ve been offered a spot in a Ph.D. program, and he says, “That’s just a sign you’re too lazy to get a real job.” Yeah, that happened. 

This struggle wasn’t confined to my childhood; it persisted well into my adult life, affecting my relationships, my career, and my sense of self. 

It wasn’t a phase or a temporary challenge; it was a relentless companion that cast a shadow over multiple aspects of my life.

How did this struggle make you feel at your worst moments?

At my lowest, the struggle with the internalized voice of narcissistic abuse felt like an insidious cloud that hung over every aspect of my life. I was carrying an invisible weight that made even the simplest tasks feel like climbing a mountain. 

Instead of specific moments standing out, it was more like a constant undercurrent of feeling rejected, worthless, and too flawed to be around others. 

This struggle severely impacted my happiness, creating a barrier that prevented me from fully enjoying my successes and relationships. I got really good at putting on a brave face, but inside, I was a mess.

The hidden struggle of codependency

I struggled with codependency for years without realizing it. I had this deep inner belief that I was unlovable unless I pleased others and earned their approval. This led me to make poor choices—ignoring red flags, minimizing abuse, and clinging to harmful people.

I remember moments of feeling completely hopeless like I had no identity outside of my dysfunctional relationships. At my lowest, I numbed feelings with unhealthy habits. With support and inner work, I’ve realized my worth comes from within. Now I know approving of myself is what matters most.

Behind the mask of success

Externally, I was achieving milestones in my career and personal life, but internally, I was in turmoil. I became adept at hiding this struggle, wearing a mask of composure and success. To the outside world, it seemed like I had it all together, but inside, I was fighting a battle that very few knew about. This duality made the struggle even more isolating.

Truth silenced, reality distorted

One of the most insidious aspects of narcissistic abuse is the suppression of truth. Narcissists often create a distorted reality to maintain their sense of control and superiority. 

As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), I have an innate ability to perceive and question things. This often put me at odds with my narcissistic father, who would go to great lengths to silence my truths because they threatened his constructed reality. This dynamic not only made me question my own perceptions but also instilled a deep-rooted fear of speaking my truth.

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Was there a moment when you started to turn things around?

After years of feeling weighed down by an invisible burden and struggling with codependency, the turning point in my journey came when I began to consciously challenge the internalized voice that had been undermining me for so long. 

I started working with professionals who helped me identify and reshape these negative thought patterns. The moment I remember feeling a change for the better was when I could look at my accomplishments and genuinely feel pride, rather than dismissing them as flukes or attributing them to external factors.

Conscious choices, lasting change

When it comes to the change in my life, it’s all on me—100%. I didn’t just luck into a supportive environment or find the right therapist by chance; I made those things happen for myself. Every healthy habit I started, every professional I worked with, every support network I built, and every moment I spent reflecting were all intentional choices. 

Journey to empowerment

This journey took years, maybe even decades, but each step I took was a conscious effort to heal and improve myself. And let me tell you, the sense of empowerment that comes from knowing you’ve turned your own life around? That’s incredibly rewarding and feels pretty amazing.

What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?

The final turning point for me was finally putting a name to what I had been experiencing: narcissistic abuse. Understanding this was like flipping a switch. I worked with a psychospiritual therapist who specialized in this area.

She helped me identify the internalized voices that were holding me back. For instance, we did exercises where I journaled conversations between my “inner critic” and my “inner advocate,” which was eye-opening.

Journaling as a mirror to the soul

One strategy that helped me immensely was journaling to identify my inner critic voices. I would write out conversations between my “inner critic” and my “inner wise mind”, paying attention to repetitive phrases like “you’re too sensitive” or “you don’t deserve success”. I then learned to cultivate my inner wise mind to reframe those criticisms.

For example, when the voice said “You’re too sensitive,” my wise mind would respond “I have the gift of perceptiveness.” Reframing these inner narratives was so empowering. I also found spiritual practices like mindfulness, meditation, and yoga invaluable. The combination of inner work and outer practices allowed me to get centered and tap into my inner wisdom.

Trusting your inner compass

Another huge step was embracing my intuition and inner wisdom. I explored various healing modalities and spiritual practices. These choices were guided by my inner voice, which I learned to trust more and more. This approach helped me understand my triggers and how my nervous system responds, giving me tools to cope better.

The healing power of acknowledgment

I think giving a voice to all the internalized voices, even the ones that seemed “bad,” was transformative. We can only heal what we bring to the surface. I started actively listening to these voices, understanding their origins, and working on reframing them. This was a big part of my therapy sessions and healing journey, and it’s something I’d highly recommend to anyone going through a similar struggle.

Breaking free from suppressed truths

Another transformative realization was understanding the power dynamics at play, especially the suppression of truth inherent in narcissistic abuse. I saw this pattern not just in my family but in other relationships and even in broader societal contexts. 

The tendency to attack the messenger instead of facing uncomfortable truths is something I’ve had to navigate carefully. Through my healing journey, I’ve learned to detach from the reactions of others and live in integrity with my own truth. This has been both liberating and empowering, allowing me to speak out without the crippling fear of rejection or ridicule.

Have you shared any of this with people around you in real life?

Sharing my struggles has been a bit of a double-edged sword. On one hand, I’ve always been open about what I’m going through, but the feedback hasn’t always been constructive. In unhealthy relationships, the advice I received was often misguided and even harmful. 

Phrases like “just have compassion for him,” or “love is the answer,” sound good on the surface, but they can be incredibly damaging when dealing with narcissistic abuse. I remember listening to a podcast “It’s Me, Dr. Z.”, where she shared a story that really resonated with me. People would say, “But it’s your father, and he’s old now,” and she’d reply, “But it was me, and I was 5!” That hit home for me and reinforced the idea that stepping away can sometimes be the most healing action to take.

Letting go for a healthier tomorrow

There were also people in my life who felt threatened by my growth. As I started to get stronger, it seemed to challenge the illusions they had built up for themselves. Realizing this was both painful and liberating. I had to make the difficult decision to let go of certain friendships, but doing so opened up space for healthier, more genuine connections.

Opening up about mental health struggles is never easy, especially when the people you expect to be your support system turn out to be part of the problem. But the journey, as tough as it has been, has also been empowering. It’s helped me sift through my relationships and keep only those that are truly beneficial for my well-being.

If you could give a single piece of advice to someone else that struggles, what would that be?

If I could offer a single piece of advice to someone else facing similar struggles, it would be this: Own your truth, even if it makes others uncomfortable. Your journey to healing is about you, not them. Don’t dim your light for anyone. Trust yourself and your intuition, and don’t hesitate to seek specialized help.

I wish I had known earlier the importance of putting a name to my struggle and seeking help from professionals who specialize in this area. Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and how it affected me was like turning on a light in a dark room. It gave me the clarity I needed to start the healing process.

Another thing I wish I had known is that it’s okay to step away from relationships that are harmful, even if society or well-meaning individuals tell you otherwise. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for yourself is to create distance and establish boundaries.

It’s not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of self-respect and self-love. And remember, you’re not alone. There are communities and professionals out there who understand what you’re going through and can offer invaluable support.

What have been the most influential books, podcasts, YouTube channels, or other resources for you?

Over the years, I’ve dived into lots of books and talked with experts to better understand the connection between body, mind, and soul. This approach has been a big part of my healing journey.

While it’s hard to pick just one book that changed everything for me, some have really stood out. One of those is ‘The Body Keeps the Score’ by Bessel van der Kolk. This book led me to explore body-based therapies and underlined what I already knew: healing has to be viewed holistically.

In addition to that, I’ve been deeply influenced by exploring the concept of the Higher Self and our spiritual connection to the universe. These works have opened me up to trusting my intuition and inner wisdom, which has been a cornerstone in my healing journey.

One of the most impactful resources has been my work with Julie Clark, a psycho-spiritual coach. Her approach combines psychology and spirituality, and she specializes in narcissistic abuse.

Working with her has been like finding a guide who speaks my language, helping me navigate the complexities of my struggle, and offering invaluable insights and tools for healing.

Where can we go to learn more about you?

If you’re interested in diving deeper into my philosophy and approach to holistic well-being, I invite you to visit my website, The Wholehearted Path.

There you’ll find a range of resources, from personalized holistic coaching and consulting services to articles on conscious living, emotional well-being, and entrepreneurship.

I also offer expert guidance in various essential aspects of life, such as healthy lifestyle choices, relationships and communication, mindset development, and spiritual growth.

You can also find me on Facebook and Pinterest.

Is there anything else you think we should have asked you?

One question that could add depth to this interview is about the role of spirituality in mental health and well-being. I believe that our struggles are not just psychological but also spiritual in nature.

For me, embracing spirituality was a significant part of my healing journey. It helped me understand the interconnectedness of mind, body, and soul, and how each aspect contributes to our overall well-being.

I also want to point out the importance of finding the right kind of help. Not all therapists or coaches are equipped to deal with specific issues like narcissistic abuse. It’s crucial to find someone who specializes in your area of struggle, as this can make a significant difference in the speed and quality of your recovery.

By the way: If you want to start feeling better and more productive, I’ve condensed the information of 100’s of our articles into a 10-step mental health cheat sheet here.

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Contents

• Who are you?
• What is your struggle?
• How did you feel at your worst moment
• When did you turn it around?
• What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?
• Who did you share your struggle with?
• Your best piece of advice?
• Books and resources
• Learn more

Hello! Who are you?

I’m Michael Matucci. I love igniting the truth and empowering leaders to to break through to their destiny. Words, classes, and movies are my mediums to spark men and women to overcome their own traumas, issues, and insecurities and eventually use them to inspire others. 

Currently, I run an academy, Encompass Life, for those choosing breakthrough results in their lives. Located in Florida, we do online and in-presence journeys for people to find their own happiness, and so, as a leader, I get to go first! In the ten years of my own study here and elsewhere, I earned my PhD.

On the side, I bring forth creations that celebrate the light in others, especially those that have emerged from the darkest places. Overcomers of gang violence, homelessness and sex trafficking are some of the most powerful and interesting people you’ll ever meet. 

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What is your struggle and when did it start?

I have lived a life of dreams across five continents, learning and communicating in the local languages, and jumping into the jobs that arose. Ready or not, here I go! I checked off my entire bucket list in my 20s. 

It sounds glamorous, and for a long time it was; however, like the social media profiles people portray, there’s much more beyond what people see and think. 

Amidst the thousands of interactions that I had, with people across the globe, one can get a sense of aloneness. I was the outsider. Frequently being fresh on the scene, it took time for new acquaintances to let me into their rooted, organized lives. 

My surroundings frequently changed, and I spent tons of energy learning a whole new city, country, and language. When it wasn’t a new language, it was a new project or profession in a new industry or subject. 

How did this struggle make you feel at your worst moments?

I’d like to add a little clarity to this question. Struggles or situations on the outside cannot make us feel anything, that’s our choice. Feelings are our responsibility. 

I didn’t realize that at the time, and it was really easy to be distracted by all the new things! When I wasn’t whizzing by them or stuffing them down, I did notice an emptiness inside. I would typically turn the page.

As I began a path of going within when I started studying deep acting work, I started noticing what I’d buried. There were longings for people and places where I’d connected profoundly. During one particular period, I found myself feeling quite depressed. 

I attempted to utilize it in the dramatic arts work I was doing at the time. Much remained untouched. Once in a while, I’d open up, which was a big surprise to people accustomed to seeing me upbeat and full of energy, so I’d close again. 

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Was there a moment when you started to turn things around?

I turned things around in two phases, both had to do with spiritual work. My first phase was filled with high-level yoga, meditation, and other Eastern practices. I started busting through blocks and strongholds I didn’t know that I had. Over time, more and more rays of joy came popping through.

After years of work I thought I was 80% there, and it was thus time to start helping others. I left my financial security, home, and friends in LA, and stepped into full spiritual service. That experience, again abroad as well as across America, reintroduced me to some more challenging circumstances and revealed there was more to go.

It was with Mark Scherer and Encompass Life that my happiness meter reached a whole new level. We discovered many hidden blocks and patterns, we all have hundreds inside, that required to be dealt with for me to live my highest life. Wow, has it been an amazing journey!

What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?

The ultimate thing that I did to reverse my circumstance was to find the place of union, the opposite of aloneness, inside of myself. All the work that I did on and in myself prepared me to actually tap into the well within that connects me to the Divine. From then on, it’s been a feeling of wholeness, completeness, and community for me!

The key to change is in you. It’s not going to be in any drug or medicine, therapy, or wild outdoor adventure. Even the joy of a terrific new partner will only cover up what’s in you for so long. It has to come out. That’s life.

You are required to work on yourself if you choose to have happiness constantly flowing from within. When you do, you face these challenges in you and turn them into treasures, then you can even ignite happiness around you. 

It’s essential to understand that Life is happening for you, not to you. Mental awareness of that is huge, but it is only the first step.

Self-empowerment is the key. Go for the tools to equip you for this journey. We teach them at Encompass Life. There are others who will also lift you. Choose someone who will teach you how to fish instead of giving you the fish. 

Have you shared any of this with people around you in real life?

What I found was that talking about struggles gives them power. If someone sympathizes with them, it then compounds them. Now, there are two of you wallowing. That’s of little use unless you’re acting in a movie.

Yes, of course, bring them up, and then do something about them. Make a new choice. Take a new action. Get a new skill. If you talk about them with someone, be sure it’s someone who is going to see you and then assist you forward. 

I do share my prior struggles now as a way to open the pathway for others. When you learn everything you can about the situation you’re in, and then navigate your way out, over, and beyond it, then you can help people in your predicament do the same!

If you could give a single piece of advice to someone else that struggles, what would that be?

It’s essential to understand that life is happening for you, not to you. Self-empowerment is the key. Go for the tools to equip you for this journey. This includes developing strong direct communication with the Creator, the Source of all. That’s where your answers are!

What have been the most influential books, podcasts, YouTube channels, or other resources for you?

I have read hundreds of books and watched hundreds more educational videos and classes. You can check my reading list for a few of the most profound transformational texts. 

There’s only so much you’ll get from books. The key is to realize that you are the answer. You co-create your experiences. You can tap into divine intelligence as much as any author, teacher, or guru when you develop yourself and stay on that road. 

Where can we go to learn more about you?

My personal site is MichaelMatucci.com and my transformational company site is EncompassLife.com. 

My social media handles are @michaelmatucci and @quantumleaptechnique. 

Feel free to send me a message here if you’d like to get in touch with me!

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Contents

• Who are you?
• What is your struggle?
• How did you feel at your worst moment
• When did you turn it around?
• What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?
• Who did you share your struggle with?
• Your best piece of advice?
• Books and resources
• Learn more

Hello! Who are you?

Howdy! I’m Sam Russell. I live in Los Angeles, CA. Originally from Austin, TX, L.A. has been my home for two decades.

Anyone from my youth would paint me as an optimistic dreamer with a gentle heart. It’s that foundation of empathy that would be the catalyst for my unique career and, at the same time, explain why strict boundaries needed to be put in place.

The owner of Page Parkes Talent Agency scouted me as a model in my mid-20s. I was the maître d at a posh bistro in Houston, TX. Behind the scenes, Vickie Snow noticed my natural flair for fashion and groomed me to become a fashion stylist. I relocated to Southern California before the turn of the century to advance my career. 

Hollywood locals know me as a personal shopper, fashion stylist, and founder of The Giving Closet. To keep my balance in my spare time, I contribute travel columns to various outlets and disappear into different resorts around the US.

My truest passion is The Giving Closet. We’ve seen up close what a new wardrobe boost can do for celebrities, but what about everyday women with unique stories of perseverance?

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What is your struggle and when did it start?

I’ve battled depression, suicidal thoughts, and low self-esteem starting at about the age of 13. As a teenager, I tried to take my life twice. What therapists would label as “mental health” issues—as I’ve aged and grown perspective in my life, I would have to disagree wholeheartedly. Unstable environments and adults that failed to protect me from predators were the sole contributors to my unstable years. 

Molested as a young child by my uncle, my birth father was plotting to kill my immediate family, and every adult seemed powerless to protect me. If my dad had not died suddenly of a heart attack at the age of 33, I’m not sure I would still be here today.

His clearing from this planet and a strange white light that appeared around me during a car crash two years later would be sneak previews of a narrative that’s only started to make sense to me as I’ve grown perspective.

Leaving Texas for Hollywood was not just my career playground but also the uncomfortable route to altering my DNA karmic tale.

How did this struggle make you feel at your worst moments?

My worst moments were definitely my teenage years. I struggled to articulate everything I had experienced and consciously chose to repress many severe memories. In retrospect, it was my only survival tool.

None of my friends growing up were aware of any of my internal struggles. Those would come up later in life, starting in my late 30s.

My curiosity for spirituality and protection from what I “couldn’t see” started after that fateful night in Austin, TX. Barely out of high school, I was at the end of a long day as a waiter for a local eatery, Lone Star Cafe. I declined an offer to go drinking with some coworkers and headed home. On a dry, clear night, I didn’t notice a small white car stalled on the interstate highway in a dark spot with no hazards on.

At the eleventh hour, I swerved at 60 mph and hit all surrounding barriers—missing the parked car entirely. As I came to, I noticed a white light around me. Everything smashed into the vehicle and around me, yet I was untouched. “Was I dead?” I asked myself. No angels arrived.

Through the smoke, I could see a panicked Hispanic family. They thought I was dead and sped off, crying, leaving me there alone.

I removed my seat belt and kicked the driver’s side door open. Jumping out, when I looked back, the space I was just in didn’t make sense. Damaged beyond repair, it was impossible that I had been sitting in that spot. That white light disappeared the moment I caught my bearings. 

The EMS on scene minutes later cleared me with a breathalyzer test and swore I had been thrown from the car, yet were perplexed that I had walked away without a scratch.

All the years I thought I had no protection were uniquely challenged.

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Was there a moment when you started to turn things around?

Yes! In two phases, really. One, after that car accident. My introduction to anything related to Buddhism, Christianity, New Age Thinking, or good old fashion southern Baptism was limited. I was a clean slate and privately asked the universe for guidance.

Standing in a friend’s closet helping her move/pack, we were in a deep conversation about my recent car accident when Shirley MacLaine’s book “Out on a Limb” fell from a top shelf and into my lap. 

The second phase was in 2007 when I was attacked by an abusive, drunk narcissist ex and realized I had to apply healthier boundaries to avoid getting caught up in those kinds of predicaments again.

What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?

My steps involved an aggressive look at my inner dialogue. It’s a place I’ve always started, and I consider myself very self-aware. Too much ego kills talent and your connection to everyone—so please don’t confuse the two. It’s not a place of high self-esteem.

Separate from judgment and ego is another voice inside of us.

A thirst for knowledge points anyone on the right path to understanding their unique circumstances. Nothing is permanent, and our lives shouldn’t be stagnant. 

I was never a melancholy child, and I never lacked personality or creative ideas. If the environment is a large factor in feeling off balance, start looking at that bluntly.

“The Artist Way” and “The Courage to Heal” are sublime books. “Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance” is very thought-provoking. These books continued my journey in trying to understand my place in this complex puzzle..aka..life.

Ernest Holmes’ book “Science of the Mind” has always stayed with me, and to be honest, I’ve yet to finish it.

I’m a big believer in the power of positive thinking and the law of attraction.

Have you shared any of this with people around you in real life?

In 2011, I started developing my traveling passion project, The Giving Closet. Interviewing nonprofits and finding cancer survivors and single moms reentering the workforce is a safe space to communicate with other “survivors.”

Taking community with these types of souls has permitted me to speak about my personal traumas. Shame dies in safe places, so only share your trauma when you’re in a place that’s 100% safe. Not 80% and not 90%, strictly 100%.

That could be in therapy, AA, or with a close friend or family member who relates or has deep empathy for your journey. Not all therapists are compassionate, and I’ve had more than one therapist challenge my positivity.

If my journey can help one or two people, then it’s worth sharing. Not all news out of Hollywood is bad.

If you could give a single piece of advice to someone else that struggles, what would that be?

You’re the absolute hero or heroine of your story. The ability to believe that even just a dollop of hope on a cloudy, grey energy kind of day can drastically alter the choices you make and the life you live.

It can and should start with your inner dialogue. Choosing thoughts that lift you and empower you doesn’t cost a dime. But paying it forward internally has to be done consistently.

What have been the most influential books, podcasts, YouTube channels, or other resources for you?

That’s an easy two-part answer. Watching Revenge Body online, I discovered Body by Simone. I was drawn to how she spoke to her clients; the wisdom is palatable.

Melanie Tonia Evans on social media is a must for discussion of healthier boundaries and healing after a narcissistic ex. The advice is relatable, and her personal experience with a dangerous ex lays the groundwork for transparent transformative healing.

Where can we go to learn more about you?

You can learn more about my passion project here.

I’ve traveled with Stevie Wonder, prepped Jon Hamm for his 1st magazine cover as the TV show Mad Men launched, BBQ’ed with The Pfeiffer Sisters and David E. Kelley, head stylist for TLCs Ten Years Younger Season 4, and had a photo shoot with actor/director/activist Sophia Bush during a major earthquake on the top floor of a suite at the Viceroy Hotel in Santa Monica.

To say it’s been a whirlwind isn’t an exaggeration. Find my adventures on social media: GivingSam on Instagram and Twitter.

Photography credit goes to Bobby Quillard Photography and Bret J. Green Photography.

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Contents

• Who are you?
• What is your struggle?
• How did you feel at your worst moment
• When did you turn it around?
• What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?
• Who did you share your struggle with?
• Your best piece of advice?
• Books and resources
• Learn more

Hello! Who are you?

Hello, my name is Kathy, and I reside in San Jose, California. I am a certified Empowerment Health and Life Coach, specializing in supporting women who face self-doubt, endometriosis, mental health challenges, and infertility.

My purpose is to help these women discover their true selves by aligning their body, mind, and soul with their life goals. Through my own journey of overcoming these struggles, I have acquired valuable tools and insights that I now use to guide others toward resilience and confidence.

In my personal life, I am married to the love of my life, and we were blessed with a beautiful miracle rainbow baby daughter who is now 10 months old. This joyous addition to our family came after enduring a two-year battle with infertility. The experience has given me profound gratitude and a deep appreciation for the miracle of life.

Spending quality time with my loved ones is something I cherish. They are my anchor, providing support and strength throughout the ups and downs of life. Without their presence, I wouldn’t be the resilient and determined person I am today.

Living with endometriosis, an incurable disease that affects my entire body, has presented physical and mental challenges. However, despite these difficulties, I consider myself a genuinely happy, kind, and loving individual.

I have always approached life with a positive mindset and a sense of humor. Making people laugh brings me immense joy because I believe laughter is one of the best remedies for happiness. One of my life missions is to spread happiness and empower women to embrace their authentic selves.

Through my coaching work and personal experiences, I strive to create a positive impact, helping others overcome obstacles, find their inner strength, and live their lives to the fullest.

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What is your struggle and when did it start?

Throughout my journey, I have been struggling with infertility caused by endometriosis. The symptoms I experienced included depression and anxiety, which were deeply intertwined with my desire to conceive.

When my husband and I started trying for a baby in 2019, we encountered numerous obstacles on our path to parenthood. After two years of unsuccessful attempts, I received my endometriosis diagnosis in 2021, which shed light on the root cause of our fertility issues.

The struggle with infertility took a toll on my mental well-being, leading to feelings of despair and anxiety. Every month, I would anxiously await the results of a pregnancy test, only to be met with disappointment as I saw a negative result. It felt like life was being unfair to me, and I often found solace in drowning my sorrows with alcohol.

Seeking medical help also became a source of anxiety and depression for me. I felt let down by the healthcare system, struggling to get timely appointments, and feeling dismissed by doctors.

A particularly difficult moment was during Thanksgiving in 2020 when I experienced an excruciating endometriosis flare-up, leaving me curled up on the bathroom floor in agonizing pain. The subsequent trip to the emergency room only resulted in the discovery of a cyst on my ovary, with no acknowledgment of my suspicions of endometriosis.

In January 2021, I finally had the opportunity to see an OBGYN, but my concerns about endometriosis were initially dismissed. However, as the months passed, regular ultrasounds revealed the presence of endometriomas, also known as chocolate cysts, confirming my long-suspected diagnosis of endometriosis.

This struggle with endometriosis, infertility, and the emotional burden of being gaslit by doctors had a profound impact on my mental health. It took 20 years for me to receive a proper diagnosis, and this delay, coupled with the emotional rollercoaster of infertility, only intensified my anxiety and depression.

The frequency of this struggle varied throughout my journey, with heightened emotions and distress during the attempts to conceive and the diagnostic process. However, the impact on my mental well-being persisted until I sought appropriate support and began managing my condition effectively.

Navigating the challenges of infertility caused by endometriosis has been a difficult and emotionally draining experience. It is crucial to prioritize my mental health and seek specialized care from healthcare professionals who understand the complexities of endometriosis and fertility issues. By doing so, I can receive the guidance, support, and appropriate treatment options needed to navigate this journey with resilience and hope.

How did this struggle make you feel at your worst moments?

This struggle has deeply impacted my happiness, causing significant emotional distress. I experienced profound sadness and found myself constantly in tears. The weight of infertility and the associated feelings of failure and self-pity created a cloud of negativity in my life.

It became challenging to find joy and contentment, as I battled with the reality of my situation and the uncertainty of whether I would ever become a mother. This struggle had a profound effect on my overall happiness and well-being, as it consumed my thoughts and emotions on a daily basis.

It was evident to those around me that I was going through a difficult time. Despite my attempts to conceal my emotions, the depth of my struggle was apparent to my family and loved ones. They could see the impact it had on my mood, behavior, and overall demeanor.

Even though I tried to hide my feelings, my family was perceptive enough to recognize that I was wrestling with something significant. They witnessed the toll it took on my mental and emotional state, and their understanding and support played a crucial role in my journey toward healing.

In an effort to maintain a sense of normalcy, I tried my best to hide my struggle from others outside of my immediate circle. However, those closest to me could see through the facade. The intensity of my emotions and the difficulty in engaging authentically during joyous occasions such as my sister’s pregnancy announcements and celebrations made it clear that I was grappling with something profound.

Acknowledging and addressing my struggle became essential in finding a path towards healing and reclaiming my happiness. The understanding and support of my loved ones, who recognized the depth of my emotional turmoil, were instrumental in providing the compassion and empathy I needed during this challenging time.

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Was there a moment when you started to turn things around?

There was a pivotal moment in my journey when I felt a significant shift in my mental state. It happened when I decided to explore my spiritual side and underwent an Akashic reading. Prior to this, I had never considered myself a particularly spiritual person, although I believed in something greater.

However, my desperation for answers and a glimpse into my future compelled me to try something new. I came across an Instagram post about Akashic readings and was intrigued by the positive feedback, so I decided to give it a try.

During the hour-long session with the practitioner, she guided me to prepare questions that my spirit guides could help answer. Naturally, one of my pressing questions was whether I would ever become a mother. To my immense joy, she affirmed that I would indeed have a daughter and even mentioned that I would produce ample milk for her.

Although I didn’t fully embrace her words immediately, it sparked a renewed sense of hope within me. This newfound hope served as a catalyst for change and encouraged me to take proactive steps toward realizing my dream of becoming a mother.

I would attribute 25% of the positive shift in my mindset to the Akashic reading itself. Hearing about the possibility of a future with a child instilled hope and ignited a sense of purpose within me. However, the remaining 75% of the transformation was a result of my own actions and choices.

Inspired by the reading, I became determined to take control of my well-being and do everything in my power to create a fertile environment for conception. I focused on improving my lifestyle by adopting healthier eating habits, incorporating regular exercise into my routine, and actively managing my stress levels. It required a conscious effort to let go of the need to constantly take pregnancy tests, which often led to emotional rollercoasters.

While the akashic reading played a significant role in shifting my mindset, I also sought therapy for a period of four months, which provided some additional support. Being able to talk to someone completely impartial and unbiased allowed me to release my frustrations and pent-up emotions. I would attribute around 15% of the positive change to therapy, as it provided a safe space for me to express myself and gain perspective.

Overall, my struggle persisted for a considerable period of time before I discovered these sources of help. It was a challenging journey filled with disappointments and uncertainties.

However, once I found the spiritual guidance through the Akashic reading and supplemented it with therapy, I felt a notable shift in my mindset and took significant strides towards reclaiming my happiness.

What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?

To overcome my struggles, I took several important steps, and I would recommend others facing similar challenges to consider the following actions:

1. Seek professional help

Recognizing the need for support, I reached out to a therapist who specialized in anxiety and depression. Working with a mental health professional provided me with valuable guidance, coping strategies, and a safe space to express my feelings and thoughts.

Through therapy, I was able to gain insights into the underlying causes of my struggles and learn effective techniques to manage my emotions and navigate the challenges I faced.

Alternatively, working with a Health & Life Coach who specializes in areas such as infertility and women’s health can also be beneficial. They can provide valuable insights, motivation, and a holistic approach to well-being, helping you set achievable goals and make positive lifestyle changes.

2. Educate yourself

I took the initiative to learn more about anxiety, depression, and endometriosis. Understanding the nature of these struggles empowered me to navigate them better and make informed decisions about my well-being.

3. Build a support system

I surrounded myself with a supportive network of friends, family, and fellow individuals who faced similar challenges. Connecting with others who could relate to my experiences provided a sense of belonging, validation, and encouragement.

4. Practice self-care

I made self-care a priority in my life. Engaging in activities that brought me joy, relaxation, and a sense of fulfillment helped me manage stress, enhance my well-being, and build resilience. This included practices such as mindfulness, exercise, journaling, and pursuing creative outlets.

5. Challenge negative thoughts

I actively worked on identifying and challenging negative thoughts and self-limiting beliefs. By questioning their validity and replacing them with more positive and empowering perspectives, I was able to shift my mindset and cultivate a more optimistic outlook.

6. Embrace self-compassion

I learned to be kinder and more understanding towards myself. Embracing self-compassion allowed me to acknowledge my struggles without judgment and treat myself with the same empathy and care I would extend to a loved one.

7. Set realistic goals

I set achievable goals and celebrated even the smallest victories along the way. Breaking larger challenges into smaller, manageable steps helped me maintain motivation and a sense of progress.

8. Seek balance

I learned the importance of finding balance in my life. This involved setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and making time for activities that nourished my mind, body, and soul.

If others find themselves in a similar situation, I would recommend reaching out for professional help, seeking support from loved ones or support groups, educating themselves about their struggles, practicing self-care, challenging negative thoughts, embracing self-compassion, setting realistic goals, and striving for balance.

Remember, everyone’s journey is unique, and it’s important to find what works best for you. Be patient and kind to yourself throughout the process, and never hesitate to ask for help when needed. It’s essential to be patient and kind to yourself throughout the process, and reaching out for support is a sign of strength.

Have you shared any of this with people around you in real life?

Sharing my struggles with those around me in real life played a significant role in my healing process. I felt comfortable discussing my journey with my immediate family, including my parents and siblings. They provided unwavering support and understanding, and I knew I could confide in them without judgment.

Sharing my struggles with close friends also proved to be immensely helpful. They offered a listening ear, empathy, and encouragement, which made me feel less alone in my journey.

However, there were certain individuals with whom I did not feel comfortable discussing my struggles. This included extended family members, such as aunts, uncles, and more traditional-minded relatives. I felt apprehensive about their potential judgment or lack of understanding regarding mental health issues.

In our cultural context, mental health was not openly discussed, and it was often seen as a taboo topic. I chose to keep my deeper struggles hidden from them, engaging in surface-level conversations to maintain a sense of privacy and protect my emotional well-being.

Initially, I found it challenging to openly share my mental health struggles with others due to fears of judgment and stigma. I worried about how others would perceive me and whether they would understand or dismiss my experiences.

However, as I started opening up on platforms like Instagram, sharing my journey became a cathartic outlet. Surprisingly, I discovered a supportive community of like-minded individuals who had faced similar struggles.

Their empathy, encouragement, and shared experiences helped normalize my struggles and provided me with a sense of belonging and validation.

Over time, sharing my mental health struggles became easier as I found the courage to be vulnerable and embrace my journey. It allowed me to connect with others on a deeper level and receive the support I needed.

While there were still moments of hesitation, opening up about my mental health ultimately played a crucial role in my healing process. It fostered a sense of empowerment and contributed to my ability to overcome my mental health challenges, infertility, and endometriosis.

If you could give a single piece of advice to someone else that struggles, what would that be?

If I could offer a single piece of advice to someone else who is struggling, it would be to embrace self-compassion. In the face of challenges, it’s crucial to treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and patience.

Recognize that you are human and that struggles are a natural part of life. Instead of judging yourself harshly or dwelling on past mistakes, practice self-compassion by offering yourself empathy, forgiveness, and encouragement.

Remember that everyone’s journey is unique, and it’s okay to ask for help. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or professional who can provide support and guidance. Surround yourself with a supportive network that uplifts and inspires you.

Additionally, practice self-care and prioritize your well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, reduce stress, and promote overall mental and physical well-being. This could include practicing mindfulness, exercising, pursuing hobbies, or engaging in creative outlets.

Lastly, remember that healing takes time and progress may come in small steps. Celebrate even the smallest victories along the way and acknowledge your resilience and strength. You have the power within you to overcome challenges and create a life filled with resilience, self-acceptance, and fulfillment.

What have been the most influential books, podcasts, YouTube channels, or other resources for you?

• Jay Shetty: On Purpose

Jay Shetty’s podcast, On Purpose, has been incredibly influential in my journey towards mental health and happiness. His insightful conversations and practical advice helped me gain a new perspective on life.

Through his episodes, I learned valuable lessons on personal growth, mindfulness, and finding purpose. Listening to this podcast reminded me that I have the power to shape my own well-being and inspired me to take positive action in my life.

• Learning about Taoism

Exploring the teachings and philosophy of Taoism has had a profound impact on my mental and emotional well-being. Taoism emphasizes harmony, balance, and surrendering to the flow of life.

By studying and applying Taoist principles, I gained a deeper understanding of acceptance, resilience, and the interconnectedness of all things. It provided me with a spiritual perspective that helped me navigate challenges with greater equanimity and find inner peace.

• YouTube Channel – Dr. Joe Dispenza

Dr. Joe Dispenza’s YouTube channel has been instrumental in introducing me to the power of meditation and its potential to transform anxiety and depression. Through his scientific approach, Dr. Dispenza explains how meditation can positively impact our brain, emotions, and overall well-being.

His teachings and guided meditations have empowered me to integrate meditation into my daily routine, resulting in a calmer mind, reduced stress, and increased self-awareness.

• YouTube Channel – Guided Meditation

Incorporating daily guided meditations from various YouTube channels has been a game-changer for my mental health. These guided meditations provide soothing and calming practices that help me relax, release tension, and cultivate mindfulness. By following the guidance and focusing on my breath, I am able to quiet my mind, reduce anxiety, and nurture a sense of inner peace.

• Breathwork from HCI

Learning and practicing breathwork techniques from the Health Coach Institute (HCI) certification school has been transformational for my overall well-being. Utilizing simple yet powerful breathing exercises, I can quickly calm my nervous system and shift into a state of relaxation. These techniques have become essential tools in managing stress, improving my mood, and promoting a sense of balance in my daily life.

These resources, whether podcasts, philosophical teachings, or practical techniques, have all contributed significantly to my mental health journey. They have provided me with valuable insights, practical tools, and inspiration, allowing me to cultivate greater self-awareness, inner peace, and overall well-being.

Where can we go to learn more about you?

You can read more about me here, or on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, and Facebook.

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The post Akashic Records Helped Start My Recovery From Depression and Anxiety Due to Endometriosis appeared first on Tracking Happiness.

Contents

• Who are you?
• What is your struggle?
• How did you feel at your worst moment
• When did you turn it around?
• What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?
• Who did you share your struggle with?
• Your best piece of advice?
• Books and resources
• Learn more

Hello! Who are you?

Hi, my name is Veena Nair! I’m 48 years old and I am from India.

I live in a small town, Palakkad, in Kerala state. I am married to a Naval Electrical engineer and we have 2 sons. I am a retired naval officer from the education branch and am presently not employed.

I love music and dance, especially Indian classical music and dance. I am a student of my native dance form, Mohiniyattamm, and am also learning to play the instrument, Veena, for the last 10 years.

I also pursue spirituality very passionately as a means of making myself a better person day by day. For me, spirituality has been my pillar of strength and has helped me to refine and define myself.

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What is your struggle and when did it start?

One year after I joined the Indian navy, I got married. This was in the year 2000. I moved and was just not comfortable with the environment, the type of people I was surrounded with. After we got married, I found my husband to be very different from how I knew him. He would talk less and come back home, sit, and just watched TV.

In the meantime, I was expected to manage the household. I started feeling lonely at that moment. We would never go out on weekends and talked little to each other. I started feeling lonely and depressed, cursing why I got married in the first place.

Seven months after we got married, I got pregnant and felt very happy at the thought of being a mother. However, as days progressed, I started feeling more and more tired, lonely, and depressed, and started gaining weight.

One day, I even started thinking of committing suicide. I used to cry a lot without reason. One day, I mentioned to my husband that I feel like jumping from the thirteenth floor where we were staying. But the only thought that stopped me was my child.

I was referred to a psychiatrist and he told me that I was experiencing clinical depression and advised me to do a lot of walking to avoid medicines. But my condition did not improve, and therefore I was put on fluoxetine during my 7th month of pregnancy and admitted to the hospital for a month.

I was very happy in the ward with my female friends and was just not feeling like coming home. Meanwhile, my parents came and I started feeling at home. They were with me during my delivery and post-delivery and I could continue my work only because of their unconditional support.

My husband, at that time, was very insensitive and selfish, a different person from who I knew.

From my understanding, I was not compatible with my husband. As a result, I developed a strong dependence on my parents, which my husband did not like at all.

I was on medication from 2002 to 2006 and finally, my psychiatrist told me to stop my medicines in December 2006. I consider that day a big successful moment for me. I did it all by myself with God’s grace.

I feel lonely and depressed at times, but only momentarily. With social media, YouTube, and of course books and a bunch of good friends, I have been able to stay on track.

How did this struggle make you feel at your worst moments?

I feel that I fell into depression because of my inability to handle my marriage.

But I also believe in the saying that there are no accidents and everything happens for a reason. I had to evolve as a person, but didn’t and that’s why I got into a depression. My parents could see me struggle and my husband too after some time.

Thankfully, he became empathetic to me and completely changed.

In our place, any sort of mental illness is a taboo. My parents never mentioned my struggle to our relatives. My father always believed that it was my marriage that wrecked me and always used to feel guilty because of it.

My husband also hid these aspects from his parents, and so they too did not know what was going on.

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Was there a moment when you started to turn things around?

In my earlier days of depression, I was always searching for a why?

As part of my search, we went to an astrologer. He mentioned that our relationship would become better if we visited Rameshwaram and take a Dampathi Snanam (it’s taking a bath in the ocean as a couple – taking a dip 45 times).

My husband has been raised by a communist father and he was never into spirituality. I strongly believe that things started changing for the better after this event, which I came to call my divine intervention.

By this time, my older son was 6 years old and we had our second son a year later. My husband had changed and was now very affectionate and took good care of me during my pregnancy.

According to Sanatana Dharma philosophy, everything happens because of the supreme power. The whole world is functioning at his will. We cannot control external situations, but it is our responsibility to take care of our inner world. Our mind.

While it is true that our environment impacts us, we can choose to step away from toxic environments. I have the responsibility to change myself only. The rest will take care of itself.

Spirituality helped me evolve as person and that reflected in my actions. Spirituality is a constant process. Lord Krishna mentions in Bhagavad Gita that the spiritual process extends to birth after birth. He mentions that helping humans is the real service to God, and that is the essence of spirituality.

What steps did you take to overcome your struggle?

I have an overactive mind and I just cannot sit idle. Whenever I am not working, I try to keep myself busy by attending courses, learning something new, and pursuing passions and spiritual practices.

It is our duty to take care of ourselves. Prioritizing yourself is not selfish. The body and mind are connected and hence it is essential to take care of both.

I value the mind more than the body. So for me, it is very important to exercise, read, watch good content, be in the company of good people, sleep well, and meditate.

It does not matter which religion you follow, God is one and it does not matter in which form we pray. All we need is an open heart and good intentions.

Have you shared any of this with people around you in real life?

I mostly talked about my struggles with my parents. My husband knows my struggles too, together with some of my close friends.

I never discuss these things with people who are incapable of understanding and are judgmental. Being judgemental is not good. It only sends negative energy to the other person. It is mentioned in Bhagavad Gita to be in the company of good people – people who inspire you and help you to grow.

If you could give a single piece of advice to someone else that struggles, what would that be?

Human beings are social, and so we need to be surrounded by good people. People whom we can trust and ask for help.

If that’s not an option, ask for help from the almighty. He will send somebody with the answer. Do not suffer and lose hope.

What have been the most influential books, podcasts, YouTube channels, or other resources for you?

• Unlimited Power by Tony Robbins.
• If Truth Be Told: A Monk’s Memoir by Om Swami.
• Happiness Unlimited by Sister Shivani.
• Autobiography Of A Yogi by Paramhamsa Yogananda.
• The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

Where can we go to learn more about you?

You can connect with me on LinkedIn!

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Founder of Tracking Happiness, with over 100 interviews and a focus on practical advice, our content extends beyond happiness tracking. Hailing from the Netherlands, I’m a skateboarding enthusiast, marathon runner, and a dedicated data junkie, tracking my happiness for over a decade.

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