sorry for your pain….dealing or not dealing with expectations are really difficult because I suppose we all have a different base of what we see as normal..

Wow, Deirdre, thanks for sharing this with me and the other readers.

I’m really sorry for the bad things that happened to you. But if I may offer a potentially uplifting message: you may have had the right mindset about it. Living life “carefree” is better than always expecting (and preparing for) the worst. But then again, I’m just typing this on a keyboard thousands of miles away, so I hope my words are not too obnoxious.

Either way, I wish you all the best. I’m happy to hear that you found our article valuable!

Hugo

My problems relate to more not expecting something to happen. I’ve always been very realistic in my expectations. Growing up in a family of 9 in a two bedroom house in Dublin with a very abusive father really leaves you with no expectations at all. When someone gives you a compliment not only are you grateful but shocked at the same time.
I guess my downfall was not expecting things to happen. So let me explain. I had no expectations about success, career, love, family. But I was not expecting the really bad things that happened to happen e.g finding my brother dead on his apartment floor, my friend Sonka dying of Brain Cancer at the age of 38 and leaving 3 kids behind her all under 6, the youngest not even two. My husband and best friend divorcing me and moving back to Australia and marrying an older woman. You see I never had expectations but it was the not expecting the really bad things that happened to happen.