Thanks for dropping by, Conor.

In my opinion, you can always try, but only if you do so respectfully and without too many expectations.

Hi Ella, I’m sorry to hear that! Did you take responsibility for your actions yet? I think that would be a good start, and maybe your friends will accept you after you show that you sincerely regret your actions. Everybody makes mistakes and deserves a second chance!

Hi Ell,

Unfortunately, some friendships aren’t meant to last forever… It sucks, I know how it feels. Things will get better!

Hey G,

Thanks for sharing. Have you contacted this person already and asked if rekindling the friendship is an option? Explaining your situation at the time might clear the air?

I am a very spiritual person and all I want is to remove and not create further animosity in my life in any way, shape or form, to respect and not harm others.
I want to release karma and live my life with a clean and happy conscience.
With these said, my mind and my soul are, to this day, still dragging along a sadness caused by the loss, last year, of a positive and constructive friendship. It was a work colleague who would always try to make me feel good about myself but I would not reciprocate with much kindness, rather cold and detached, as I was stuck in my head over the difficulties I was facing home where I was living with a gaslighter who would make me feel dysfunctional.
Now, a year after distancing myself from my colleague and friend, not on bad or ugly terms, and via email communication, and after managing to remove toxicity out of my life, I would like to reach out and rekindle this connection or, at least find closure so that I can really move on with a light hart.
So, what would the best approach be in this situation?

Hi,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I understand that this is a sad situation, and I’m not sure what to say to be honest.

Have you ever asked him why he stopped replying exactly? If not, you should start there. Maybe there’s something else.

On one hand, you have the saying “if you love someone let them go”. While this is usually said about romantic relationships, it can also be applied to friendships, and relationships in general.

But on the other hand, it sounds like you have the best intentions.

If your friend wants space away from you, the best thing you can do is give him/her space. Don’t force a friendship, but let the other person now what your intentions are (to be a good friend) and that if that person is ready, then you’re willing to work on your friendship.

All the best,

Hugo