But, if we’ve already set our minds to achieve a goal no matter the setbacks, then the only key to unlocking that door to success is persistence. Being persistent means choosing to keep going amidst challenges and failures. It’s our ability to get up every time we fall down.

Taking this hard route will not always be our favorite option. So, here, I’m going to tell you more about the impact of persistence and how you can develop this life skill!

What factors influence persistence?

What motivates us to persist?

In a study that explores the persistence of first-year university students, it has been found that there are various factors that predict persistence among freshmen.

1. Interest

One of the top factors that have an effect on academic persistence is interest. Aside from enjoyment, interest also includes one’s certainty in taking that particular course which affects the student’s likelihood of sticking to it instead of dropping out.

2. External circumstances

Another huge factor is the occurrence of life events outside of their academics, such as a parent getting ill. Striking moments in the student’s campus life can also cause stress and becomes detrimental to persistence, such as the exam period or the release of exam results. It’s because these happenings are “emotionally charged” which can influence a person’s ability to keep going.

3. Social support

Lastly, the study has found that there’s also a social factor to persistence. When students get a strong sense of support from their social connections, then they are more likely to feel “energized” to perform well at school.

The way persistence works

When we’re tackling a goal, when do we know when to stop or to keep going? There are so-called “persistence rules” that we internally follow when deciding between the two.

According to this study on the persistence of employees, there are two rules that working individuals personally follow: the “enough rule” and the “enjoyment rule”.

I’m sure you can relate to these rules – the former is persisting until you think you’ve done enough work and the latter is persisting until you’ve lost interest in what you’re doing.

Personally, I follow different rules depending on my mood and the time that I have to finish a task.

If I’m generally feeling tired or anxious on a particular day, then I would follow “the enough” rule. I wouldn’t try to force myself to continue working if my mind or body is no longer capable to do so.

Otherwise, when I’m feeling motivated to work on a task and I’m not under a strict deadline, I have the tendency to keep going as much as I can until I get distracted or disinterested.

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Why persistence predicts success

Being persistent doesn’t come easy, so why should we keep trying?

One of the buzzwords that recently came up in the psychological sphere is grit. This term is defined as one’s quality to sustain their passion or to persevere through a long period of time.

According to this study, grit can predict success in various settings – from Ivy League undergraduates’ academic performance to elementary kids’ ranking in a spelling bee.

The dangers of persistence

Like any other good thing in this world, persistence also has a downside. When we can’t correctly identify when to persist and when to stop, there are consequences that may befall us such as:

• We waste our resources on meaningless or worthless endeavors.
• We ignore better alternatives.
• We stress ourselves out and harm our mental health.
• We let pride get in the way and refuse to admit that we have failed.
• We find out that pain doesn’t always feel rewarding in the end.

As they say, we should always take things in moderation, and persistence is no exception.

Sometimes, we think that we just have to endure a painful situation and hold it out for a longer period of time, and we’ll reap the benefits that we deserve. But, we don’t realize that, often, staying on this path is actually more harmful than letting go and starting anew.

If you find yourself in this kind of pickle, don’t worry because I’ve got some helpful tips to guide you through the right path to persistence!

How to be more persistent

For you to find success in persisting, here are 7 simple tips to keep you on track:

1. Dream big, start small

It’s important to have a vision and plan your way into achieving it. It will give you a sense of direction, but don’t get too lost in trying to tackle your goals on the get-go.

Yes, you must dream big. But, remember that you won’t get there if you don’t start with the least amount of work possible.

Aside from avoiding being overwhelmed, doing small tasks can also get us through the day. Not the week, not the year – just the day. It’s easy to get burnt out when we keep on working without seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. But, the key to this is just lighting a little flame and taking it one step at a time.

2. Know the reason behind your goals

The secret to doing more is having a source of motivation. And this motivation lies in the reasons why we’re doing something in the first place.

Remember: reasons reap results. To persist is to keep coming back to the “whys” and letting them fuel us to keep going.

I am currently taking my Master’s degree in Counselling Psychology, and, even though I’m only in my first year, there are moments when I’ve actually considered deferring this year just because of the toll that this pandemic has taken on myself and the rest of the world. It’s not easy to pursue something when everyone seems to be at a standstill.

But, I always go back to my reasons as to why I want to continue my studies. I have a purpose, and that is to help others who are struggling with their mental health and to remind them what it’s like to be human. And, whenever I think about that, I just feel like there’s no time to be wasted – I can power through this!

3. Rest, don’t quit

I’m a big believer in taking conscious breaks. It’s important that we allow ourselves to rest in between our attempts at conquering the world. As they say, we can’t give what we don’t have. So, how can we persist towards our goals when we’re already running low inside?

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned about persistence is that taking a break doesn’t mean we’re quitting. It doesn’t mean that we’re losing time or we’re being lazy. For me, rest is an integral part of the process and not a detriment to it.

So, if you’re currently struggling with pursuing your goal or completing a task, perhaps it’s your inner self telling you that it’s time to recharge before you make another move.

4. Find different solutions to your setbacks

Sometimes, we get too stubborn or rigid when it comes to sticking to our goals. But, it can be more beneficial to keep an open perspective and find a different route to our destination.

We have to determine when something is no longer working. It doesn’t mean that we’ve made the wrong decision; it only means that there must be another way.

We have to be creative in this part of the process. Maybe the right tools are not available to us, so we have to craft them ourselves. Or, perhaps, we don’t have to follow the traditional course, so we can forge our own path.

Doing the same things over and over again without seeing results can also hinder our persistence. If we find fresh solutions, then it can also help ignite a newfound energy that will keep us going.

5. Don’t be afraid to start again

Starting again doesn’t mean that you have failed. While it may take you longer to get to where you want to be, it’s also an opportunity to identify your mistakes and, perhaps, go through the process much smoother the second time around.

Also, keep in mind that we all have our own time to shine. Maybe 2020 isn’t your year. But, what if it’s the next? You don’t have to quit altogether right now.

Perhaps, you just have to wait it out and start fresh with a more equipped version of you.

6. Embrace failure as a stepping stone

Failure is often perceived negatively, but it’s a crucial aspect of persistence. Embracing failure means understanding that each setback is an opportunity to learn and grow.

Instead of letting failure discourage you, analyze what went wrong and what could be improved. This approach transforms failure from a roadblock into a stepping stone towards success.

Keep a journal of your failures and the lessons learned from each. Reflect on these entries regularly to remind yourself of the progress you’ve made and the knowledge you’ve gained. This practice will help you view failures as constructive feedback rather than insurmountable obstacles.

Persistence can be bolstered by the people around us. Having a support network – friends, family, mentors – provides emotional encouragement and practical advice. When you’re feeling demotivated or facing challenges, these individuals can offer a different perspective and help you stay on track.

Actively seek out and nurture relationships with people who inspire and support your goals. Remember, persistence isn’t just an individual journey; it’s also about the company you keep.

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Wrapping up

Our ability to keep going when the going gets tough is one of the things that make us superhuman. We get to defy the odds, break our boundaries, and achieve something that elevates us into becoming the person that we’re meant to be.

But, we must not forget to be human throughout this process. It’s okay to take a break. It’s okay to admit that we were wrong. It’s okay to start over again. Only then can persistence make a difference in our lives that’s truly worthwhile.

Let me know in the comments below what you think!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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Oftentimes, our patience gets tested on matters that would require us to pause, reflect, and hold out. It’s not always easy being patient, which is why it’s highly regarded as a “virtue.” Those who choose patience when faced with difficult moments are more likely to make rational decisions, have better relationships, and be more peaceful within.

If you’re currently struggling with patience or looking to hone it, here are some powerful insights to help you keep your cool when it almost seems impossible.

Why it’s so hard to be patient

These days, we’re all living fast-paced lives. We always find ourselves in the hustle and bustle of things, and, often, this is where we feel like we’re thriving.

We’re used to instantaneous results and we find the best “shortcuts” or “hacks” to get ahead. And this modern phenomenon is what makes us even more prone to impatience.

We struggle with patience when we are unwilling to wait for things or people. Whether it’s a slow driver ahead of us on the road or a life-changing decision that needs to be carefully thought out, the situations that test our patience have the tendency to get the best of us just because we lack the capacity to wait and the luxury to take more time.

Why patience is so important

Impatience can often lead to anger and frustration. The reason behind this is that we want to reach a goal without going through the means to get there. But, we can’t actually make it to the destination without the least bit of journeying first.

Aside from raging emotions, other major effects of our impatience can manifest in outcomes such as:

• Poor judgment.
• Irrational decisions.
• Restlessness.
• Harsh attitude towards others.
• Unnecessary stress.

Having said that, a lot of negativity in our lives can be avoided if we choose to be patient.

Though it’s not always easy to keep your cool amidst adversities, we must always take the higher road in order to steer clear of these damaging results.

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Studies about patience and wellbeing

So, what do we really get from being patient? First things first, our mental and emotional well-being benefits the most when we choose patience over anger, frustration, and stress.

In a study conducted among Iranian students, the relationship between patience and other constructs such as life satisfaction and personality was examined.

The students were given the top assessment tools to measure these paradigms, and it was found that patience, especially long-term, is a predictor of mental wellness, particularly for those who scored high on the depression scale.

Another study sought to increase patience among participants through a patience training intervention. After administering tests and conducting the intervention, one of the major findings was that increased patience can indeed alleviate depression.

5 Powerful benefits of patience

Aside from scientifically-proven benefits on your mental health, there are also a whole lot more powerful benefits to being patient.

Here are some that I have found in my studies:

1. You make thoughtful decisions

Contrary to making rushed and irrational decisions, you can carefully assess your situation and make a more sensible judgment when you’re being patient.

Personally, I usually practice patience when I know that something is not meant for me and I have to wait until the best course of action comes along.

From getting into relationships to deciding on a job opportunity, I’m quite proud of myself for being able to refrain from making rash decisions. I know what I want and deserve, and so I’ve learned to wait until something feels exceptionally right.

2. You cultivate enduring relationships

Patience is also associated with how we treat people around us. Most of the time, the people closest to us can drive us inexplicably mad.

Perhaps, your partner has done something that triggered your annoyance. Instead of lashing out at them, patience teaches us to breathe for a moment and look at matters from a wider perspective.

This way, we also become empathic and compassionate towards the other person and avoid strain in our relationships.

3. You think long-term

When we’re patient, we’re able to look far ahead into the future instead of being stuck with a short-term vision. As they say, good things in life take time.

Patience lets us appreciate the journey that it takes to make it to our bigger goals.

In my case, I’ve decided to pursue post-graduate studies after already working in the industry for more than five years. Even though it will slow down my career growth at the moment, I know that investing in my formal education and taking the time to improve myself will give me better results in the long run. I just have to be patient with my own process, forgive myself for the delays, and trust that I’ll get there soon.

4. You find inner peace

The worst thing about being impatient is that it brings us stress.

We’re always short-tempered, antsy, and demanding. It seems as though the world will end if we don’t get our way right here, right now.

But, when we choose patience, we also choose inner peace. We let go of the things that don’t serve us. We trust our own pace. And, we let the universe run its course. Patience teaches us to pause and surrender.

And, in a society where everything seems to be rushed, we can all use the time to just accept the present moment as it is and just breathe.

5. You learn to be kind

When we’re patient, we are more likely to act from a place of kindness. When the world around us seems to be uncaring and restless, patience reminds us to be gentle and lenient. We get to be more forgiving towards those who are driving us to our limits.

And this doesn’t only apply to the way we treat others, but it also encompasses our relationship with ourselves.

For me, being patient is being kind to myself. It’s allowing myself to make mistakes, learn from them, and take the necessary time to grow.

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Wrapping up

Being patient may seem like a tall order especially when we find ourselves caught up in the hustles of life. But, choosing patience will allow us to find peace and happiness in our path, no matter how long and winding it may feel. There’s no need to rush or to be harsh. We can always meet others halfway and embrace ourselves right where we are in our journey.

What do you think? Do you find that being patient correlates to feeling happier? Do you struggle with practicing patience? Let me know in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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Optimistic people have a unique ability to see opportunities where others may see obstacles, to find joy in the midst of adversity, and to maintain a positive outlook even in the face of uncertainty.

Do you want to bring more optimism into your life? Keep reading to explore what helps optimistic people manifest happy and fulfilling lives!

Benefits of being optimistic

Optimism is a mental attitude characterized by hopefulness and the anticipation that good things will happen in the future. It’s about adopting a positive mindset geared towards successful outcomes.

Having an optimistic outlook in life can do wonders for our well-being. Studies have found that there is a relation between optimism and coping strategies such as the ability to stay positive in stressful situations, which can impact one’s quality of life. Optimism is also associated with adaptability and problem-solving skills that can promote success and a healthy lifestyle.

Recently, we’ve all experienced unprecedented challenges and uncertainties brought by the COVID-19 pandemic. In crises such as this, being optimistic can be a powerful tool. A study has found that anticipating a positive future amidst the pandemic helped increase positive emotions in such stressful conditions.

While it may not always be easy to maintain a positive outlook, developing a mindset of optimism is a skill that can be learned and practiced over time, leading to many benefits and positive outcomes.

Learning to be optimistic

In my personal experience, anxious tendencies can make it challenging to be optimistic. Sometimes, it’s as if my brain automatically goes straight to the worst-case scenario and jumps to conclusions –  ones that are usually against my favor.

Through therapy, I’ve learned that one of the best ways to cope with my anxiety is to focus on the positive things that are happening to me. I should always remind myself of my achievements and the love that surrounds me.

Optimism can be a powerful tool that helps us see that there are brighter days ahead. Positivity and hopefulness can keep us going amidst uncertain times and our most anxious moments.

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Characteristics of optimistic people

To be more optimistic, here are some traits that you can cultivate:

1. They have a positive attitude

Optimistic people tend to have a positive outlook on life, and they believe that good things are possible. They are rather hopeful than doubtful, and they don’t let themselves be limited by fear.

While it may not always be easy to stay optimistic, making an effort to focus on the positive aspects of life can help us endure the many challenges we face in life. It’s always helpful to look at the glass half-full!

2. They exude confidence

Those who are optimistic believe in their own abilities and strengths. They embody a certain kind of confidence that comes from their positive belief in themselves and the future.

Once you believe that there is great potential in you, it’s more likely that your inner hopes will manifest in real life.

3. They are open-minded

To avoid negativity, optimistic people open their minds to different perspectives and possibilities. If something goes against their favor or ideas, they tend to seek further understanding and learning.

Being open-minded does not mean that we have to accept every prospect presented to us, but it does mean that we can consider them and evaluate them objectively.

4. They appreciate humor

Being optimistic can also mean having a good sense of humor. Even amidst trying times, optimism means finding joy and laughter in everyday situations.

For some people, humor can be a coping strategy or a defense mechanism. Just make sure that you’re not using it to hide or bury feelings that you should be tuning into.

5. They are goal-oriented

Someone who is optimistic believes in success, which is why they are not afraid to set goals and do everything to achieve them. They have a clear picture of what their future looks like, which is never clouded by fear.

Being persistent with our goals can eventually lead us to the life that we have envisioned. With positivity and determination, there’s nothing that can stop us from being the person we’ve always wanted to be.

6. They take action

Optimistic people tend to be bold. As they are not paralyzed by negativity, they always act towards their desires and ambitions. They feel excited by possibilities, and they approach everything with vigor.

Life is too short to let ourselves be limited by negative thinking. While going after our wildest dreams can be daunting, a positive mindset can surely make us feel braver!

7. They practice gratitude

Appreciating the good things in life comes naturally to optimistic people. They focus on what they have rather than what they lack, and they are thankful for every blessing that comes their way.

Practicing gratitude allows us to feel more content in the present moment. Whether it’s feeling inner satisfaction or expressing our thanks to our loved ones, gratitude can help us see the best things that life has to offer.

8. They are resilient

Because of having a positive mindset, optimistic people are more likely to bounce back from setbacks, failures, or disappointments. No matter the difficulties, they keep moving forward.

Resilience and optimism go hand in hand as these qualities allow us to navigate the ups and downs of life with greater ease and adaptability.

9. They don’t give up easily

When they encounter failure or rejection, optimistic people have the ability to pick themselves up and try again. They don’t feel disheartened so easily. They persevere until they achieve their desired outcome.

With hard work and dedication, all of us are meant for greatness. As long as we don’t give up, things will fall into place eventually.

10. They are achievers

With all these positive qualities, an optimistic person tends to achieve highly in life. They become successful in every endeavor that they put their heart and mind to.

By believing in our own potential and the possibility of good outcomes, we’ll eventually prove that the universe has always been on our side.

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Wrapping up

Whether it’s practicing gratitude, cultivating resilience, or adopting a positive mindset, there are many ways that optimism can lead us to a more fulfilling life.

By focusing on the good and reframing negative experiences, we can become more resilient in the face of stress and adversity, and more successful in achieving our goals.

How do you practice optimism in your life? Feel free to spread some positivity in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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Selfish people are often described as self-centered, insensitive, and manipulative. They tend to put their own needs and desires above those of others, disregarding the feelings and well-being of those around them.

While everyone can be selfish at times, some individuals exhibit these traits more frequently and heavily than others. In this article, we’ll explore how to spot these characteristics so we can encourage healthier, more positive behaviors within our relationships.

The psychology of selfishness

Psychology defines being selfish as having “the tendency to act excessively or solely in a manner that benefits oneself, even if others are disadvantaged.” 

One of the psychological factors that drive this trait is our ego. The ego, defined in the simplest way, refers to the “I” which allows us to make decisions based primarily on our personal identity. This is why we often hear the term “big ego” which we associate with people who come off as “self-absorbed.”

To a greater extent, narcissism can also explain why some of us exhibit selfish behaviors. Narcissists are characterized as those who have a huge sense of self-importance which causes them to be indifferent to other people’s feelings and needs.

As humans, we have the disposition to keep surviving and thriving. Having such individual needs can conflict with our prosocial behavior. In connection to that, other factors that may feed someone’s selfishness include:

• Wanting to feel secure.
• Maintaining certain privileges.
• Being in a position of high status or power.

While some degree of selfishness is natural and even necessary, excessive selfishness can lead to negative outcomes for ourselves and those around us.

On being selfish

Selfishness is definitely a negative trait to have. But, being human, I wouldn’t say I’ve always been above it. I, too, have made selfish decisions in my life that hurt the people that I love.

Growing up, I’ve always tried my best to please my family and do what is expected of me. But, as I got older and developed a stronger sense of independence, I made some choices that eventually disappointed my parents.

Despite knowing that I caused them distress, I knew that I had to do certain things for my personal development and well-being. I had to set boundaries that might have made them feel alienated.

In life, I’ve realized that we will always encounter that conflict of choosing between ourselves and our loved ones. Oftentimes, putting their feelings above our own is an act of love. But, there are cases when it’s an act of betrayal to ourselves. We just have to figure out which weighs more.

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Characteristics of selfish people

How do we know when someone is acting based purely on selfish reasons? Here are some qualities you need to look out for:

1. They are self-centered

Selfish individuals tend to be focused on their own needs and desires, rather than those of others. They are often preoccupied with themselves and their own interests.

Those who are selfish tend to make everything about them to the point that they can make the people around them feel unseen. Being in a conversation with them, for example, can be frustrating as they can’t seem to talk about anything but themselves.

2. They feel entitled

Selfish people often feel entitled because they have a strong sense of self-importance. Perhaps, they were raised to feel special or they have achieved a level of success that has made them feel superior.

It can be upsetting when we deal with someone who’s entitled. They may take credit for the work that we do or make us feel like we’re not worthy. When you encounter someone who’s entitled, remind yourself that their “superiority” doesn’t mean that you’re lacking or less deserving in any way!

3. They only look out for themselves

When things go awry, selfish people will only look out for themselves. They may even throw others under the bus just to save themselves from the trouble that they have probably caused.

In some situations, selfish individuals may offer to help – but only if it would benefit them. You should be cautious as this type of person rarely has the most genuine intentions.

4. They are greedy

Selfishness can manifest through one’s unwillingness to share what they have with others. Furthermore, they can also become obsessed with accumulating more and more, often beyond what they need.

Being selfish and greedy are traits that we need to watch out for, as this type of person can leave us with nothing if we’re not careful enough.

5. They can be inconsiderate

Selfish people tend to take others for granted and become insensitive to how they feel. Because they are too set in their own ways, they may not even think about how their behavior can affect others.

While prioritizing ourselves isn’t a bad thing, it’s also important to be considerate of others, especially those who are close to us. We have to be mindful of how others feel and what they need from us in order to foster better relationships.

6. They lack empathy

We’ve all heard of the term, “putting oneself in another’s shoes.” Selfish people, however, seem to have the inability to practice this. They lack empathy and have difficulty understanding someone else’s situation.

Those who are short on compassion tend to be blinded by privilege or status, and we might be better off disengaging with them. Instead, let’s focus our energy on the people who can show us the kindness and support that we all deserve.

7. They can be manipulative

Selfish people often do things for their own gain. As a result, they may resort to manipulative tactics just to get what they want.

If someone is manipulating you for selfish reasons, it can severely impact your emotional and mental health. Once you notice such behavior, it’s best to cut these toxic ties as soon as you can.

8. They overstep boundaries

A person who is selfish tends to have little regard for the rules that apply to others and may feel that they do not need to follow them. They can also neglect boundaries just because they are too focused on their own needs.

This type of selfishness can be disrespectful and should not be tolerated. Someone who doesn’t honor your boundaries isn’t worth building any kind of relationship with.

9. They never feel sorry

Feelings of regret and guilt can plague us when we’ve hurt other people. However, a selfish person usually never feels sorry when they cause distress, take more than they need, or overstep boundaries.

Don’t expect an apology from selfish people. After all, they’re too fixated on how to themselves feel good.

10. They are lonely

With all the negative behaviors that selfish people exhibit, there’s little wonder why they don’t have the best relationships. They end up lonely because their selfish ways have driven the people around them away.

We must remember that satisfying our personal interests wouldn’t make our lives more fulfilling. At the end of the day, kindness and love will always matter the most.

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Wrapping up

In conclusion, selfish people are individuals who give high priority to their own interests, often at the expense of others. They may exhibit toxic behaviors such as being manipulative and disregarding boundaries. They always take, but they never give.

Remember that you cannot change someone, but you can always control your response to them. By prioritizing your own needs, you can navigate interactions with selfish people while protecting your well-being.

Does this article remind you of anyone in your life? What do you think makes someone selfish? Feel free to discuss further in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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There are times when we don’t even realize where this lack of motivation is coming from. But, in order to get past this block, we have to pinpoint why it’s affecting us and start from there. What causes a lack of motivation, and how can we improve these parts of our lives?

In this article, we’ll be delving further into motivation and what to do when we’re short of it. Time to get moving!

Factors that drive motivation

The factors that affect motivation have been widely investigated in behavioral psychology. And rewards are the most popular predictors of motivation. Money, for example, is an ideal reward that can motivate you to do just about anything, especially when it’s the right price!

But, aside from money and other shiny things, there are intangible aspects that can also increase our motivation. In the professional setting, employee motivation can be influenced by circumstances such as working environment, a sense of purpose, or career progression.

This topic has also been studied before.

A study was conducted among employees in Northern Malaysian universities, and it has been found that employee empowerment is strongly linked to their motivation. In a Slovenian population, this study has found that there are interdependent factors that affect employee motivation such as good relationships with colleagues, opportunities for growth, and effective management within the organization.

Personally, I get motivated when something I do excites me and feeds my passion. This way, I get to power through my workload while feeling inspired and fulfilled.

Effects of motivation

Simply put, when we’re motivated, we tend to do more. On a good day, personally, I’m able to blast through my to-do list when my motivation is high. However, when I’m lacking in that department, I might procrastinate and fail to accomplish everything on my plate.

Motivation can also push our performance for the better. Aside from the quantity, we also improve the quality of our work when we’re motivated. As a writer, for example, when the subject that I’m writing about excites me, I get more motivated to finish the piece and more satisfied with the outcome.

The way we learn can also be affected by how motivated we are. According to memorization coach James Kwik, we’re more likely to learn something when we have a reason to learn it. This is where motivation comes in. Something as simple as remembering names will be easier when we’re motivated to do so.

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What causes a lack of motivation?

Staying motivated is beneficial for us, but, like any good thing, it’s not an easy feat. However, it’s not to say that it’s impossible. Feeling demotivated can come from a lot of things, and once you figure out what’s causing it, it’ll be more manageable to get past your roadblocks!

Here are 5 things that can cause our lack of motivation and how to fix each one of them.

1. Being overwhelmed causes a lack of motivation

One of the major causes of my lack of motivation is feeling overwhelmed. For me, when there’s a handful of pending tasks with varying weight and importance, I have the tendency to be overwhelmed and less inclined to accomplish even just one of them. I then end up not being able to finish my day’s work because of this.

It’s normal to feel defeated by a pile of work that needs to be done even before you dive into them. We all struggle with this especially when we don’t think we have the time or capacity to tackle whatever we’re faced with.

Of course, there’s a way out of your overwhelming situation. If you have a number of tasks to do, categorize them by difficulty. This way, you can start with smaller and easier tasks just to get the ball rolling.

If you just have one big task that you’re overwhelmed with, try to think of a way to break it down into smaller ones. For me, when I have to write a lengthy piece, I segment this task by doing research first, next, creating an outline, and, then starting the actual writing.

When you’re overwhelmed, it’s also helpful to focus on the present rather than the enormity of what lies ahead. Just ask yourself, “what can I do now?”

2. Procrastination causes motivation issues

The more you’re prone to procrastination, the less likely you’ll be motivated to accomplish anything. It can also go the other way around: when you’re demotivated, you tend to procrastinate on the tasks at hand.

Pushing our tasks to a later time can be very tempting. Contrary to feeling overwhelmed, procrastination tells us that we will always have time to finish them, so why start now?

However, the more you set your tasks aside, the more demotivated you get. And, without enough motivation, your output will also suffer because, as we all know, crammed work isn’t always top-notch.

Procrastination’s best friend is a distraction. I know this one all too well. My procrastination is fed by the various distractions that surround me, especially my phone.

If you feel the same way, then you really have to restrain yourself. Put your phone away, and make sure that you’re only focused on the task at hand.

Another foolproof way to fight procrastination and demotivation is rewarding yourself every time you accomplish something. Perhaps, it can be treating yourself to a nice dinner or simply allowing yourself to have a 10-minute break.

3. Fear keeps us from starting

As we all know, fear can paralyze us from doing just about anything. When we fear the process or the outcome, it’s easy to lose heart. Just like feeling overwhelmed, fear can cause us to shun motivation away just because we don’t believe that we have what it takes to get to where we want to be.

Of course, being afraid is part of being human. We can’t escape it. But, it doesn’t mean that we have to succumb to it. We can feel fear about what needs to be done, but we can’t let it hold us back from doing it.

Finding motivation amidst fear can be challenging. But, one way to manage your fear is to be friends with it. What are you really afraid of? How does fear show up, and how does it affect you? What strategy works when you’re faced with fear?

Fear will always be there – it’s instinct, after all. So, you just have to get to know it and embrace it. Only then will you triumph over it especially when it’s affecting your motivation to conquer your goals.

If you want to know more about dealing with fear, here’s an article by Maili about how to deal with the fear of starting something new!

4. Exhaustion causes a lack of motivation

If there’s a lot going on in your life, there’s a tendency that you’re not taking care of yourself enough – physically, mentally, and emotionally. If you’re running low on the inside, this can definitely take a toll on your level of motivation.

When I’m exhausted, of course, I’m not able to think and move according to my maximum potential. Physical and mental tiredness is also a major setback for me. So, instead of accomplishing the things on my to-do list, I would rather do something that doesn’t require much energy or just take a nap instead.

Exhaustion isn’t something that we have to fight in order to get our motivation back. It’s actually our body letting us know that we’re doing more than what we’re currently capable of.

When you’re feeling demotivated, listen to what your body is telling you. Chances are you need to step away from the hustling and prioritize your well-being first. You have to hit pause and nourish yourself first before you can do anything else.

Try to get more sleep, improve your wake-up routine or eat more healthily.

Just make sure that you’re taking mindful breaks and not simply procrastinating!

5. Impatience causes motivation issues

Ever feel demotivated because you can’t seem to get to where you want to be? It happens to the best of us. Sometimes, we get impatient with our progress which makes us feel less inspired to keep going.

We keep asking, “Am I there yet?” ,“How long will it take?” and “Will I still get there?”

When impatience affects our motivation, we are even more prone to quitting. But, just because achieving our goals is taking longer than we expect, it doesn’t mean that we’re a hopeless case.

When you’re feeling impatient, redirect your mindset and enjoy the journey instead. As they say, good things come to those who wait. Just because things aren’t happening yet, it doesn’t mean that you’re not moving or growing. Remind yourself why you’re here, and allow yourself to flourish even in the waiting.

Another way to counter impatience is to celebrate even your smallest wins. By doing so, you’ll be able to view your progress from a different perspective. You’ll get there soon, so just keep swimming!

Here’s another great read on how to deal with being impatient!

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Wrapping up

Motivation can catapult us to reach our biggest goals. But, it’s not easy to sustain especially if there are things that are weighing us down such as fear, feeling overwhelmed, or exhaustion. However, getting your motivation back is always possible. You just have to identify your stumbling blocks and find the strength to smash them! We’re rooting for you!

What do you think? Was there anything I missed? Any tips that help you deal with a lack of motivation? Let me know in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

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Happiness is something that every person seeks, yet it can be elusive and difficult to define. What brings happiness to one person may not necessarily bring happiness to another. However, understanding the factors that contribute to happiness can help us to live more fulfilling lives. 

In this article, we will explore different answers to the question, “What makes you happy?” By examining the different sources of happiness, I hope to provide insights for individuals seeking to cultivate greater happiness and well-being in their lives!

Sources of happiness

We all have various sources of happiness. But to help you reflect on what truly makes you happy, breaking them down into categories can make the process easier.

According to a book entitled Happiness: A Very Short Introduction by philosophy professor Dr. Haybron, there are 5 key sources of happiness which are as follows:

1. Security: Experiencing a sense of stability and predictability in our lives can lead to feelings of calmness, contentment, and happiness.
2. Relationships: Spending time with family and friends, building strong social connections, and having a supportive partner are all sources of happiness for many people.
3. Outlook: Practicing gratitude and focusing on the positive aspects of life can increase happiness levels and reduce stress and anxiety.
4. Autonomy: Making independent choices and having control over one’s life, has been found to be a significant source of happiness and fulfillment.
5. Skilled and meaningful activity: Engaging in activities that allow us to find a sense of purpose can increase overall life satisfaction and happiness.

These are just a few examples of the many sources of happiness, and what brings happiness to one person may not necessarily bring happiness to another. Ultimately, happiness is a subjective experience that can be influenced by a variety of factors, both internal and external.

My own answer to happiness

When I think about what makes me happy, I’d like to go for things that don’t take too much effort or cost me a lot.

For example, being happy in a relationship doesn’t have to mean grand expressions of love. It can be cooking our favorite meal together on a Tuesday night, or receiving a compliment at a random moment.

When I think about happiness in my everyday life, it can be as simple as feeling the warm sun on my skin or seeing a baby smile at me on the bus. It’s those tiny encounters that instantly lift my mood.

When I find joy in humble and innocent moments like these, it creates a positive change in my perspective on life. I realize that life can be pure bliss when we know the value of contentment!

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10 answers to the question “What makes you happy?”

If you’re exploring the ways to respond to this question, here are some examples worth reflecting on:

1. Appreciating the small things

Enjoying simple pleasures, such as reading a good book, basking in the morning sun, or looking out at a nice view, can instantly spark our happiness.

Appreciating the simple joys that life brings can help us to be fully present in the moment and enjoy the experience to its fullest. Most of the time, finding happiness doesn’t have to cost us anything at all!

2. Spending time with our loved ones

Loved ones can provide emotional and social support, which can help us cope with stress and adversity. This sense of social support can lead to greater happiness and well-being.

When we share experiences with the people we care about, it can also create good memories and strengthen our relationships. Whether it’s special occasions or pure quality time, making time for our loved ones can surely give us a good dose of positivity.

3. Expressing love and feeling loved

When we show our love to someone and we know that we’ve made them happy, it can give us a sense of fulfillment. In the same way, feeling their love in return can certainly provide the kind of joy that’s priceless.

Knowing that the people we love feel the same way can also boost our self-esteem and sense of self-worth, which can lead to greater confidence and happiness!

4. Doing our favorite activities

Whether it’s enjoying our hobbies or pursuing the work that we love, doing what makes us happy can do wonders for our mental health and overall life satisfaction.

Engaging in activities that we enjoy can also act as a form of stress relief, helping us to relax and live an easy-going life. Keep in mind that you don’t need a lot of reasons to do something but to make yourself happy!

5. Experiencing new things

Ever had one of those “bucket lists” of things you want to try before you reach a certain age? Surely, ticking things off this list can bring adventure and excitement to your life.

Oftentimes, we can get lost in the grind of our daily lives, and one way to break such monotony is by immersing ourselves in new experiences. So, step out of your comfort zone and enjoy all the excitement and happiness that the world has to offer!

6. Achieving our goals

Most of us find happiness through a sense of accomplishment. By setting goals and working towards achieving them, we attain positive feelings such as pride, satisfaction, and growth.

While it’s great to be goal-driven, it’s also important to note that true happiness is not a destination. Rather, paying close attention to our journey can help us find more meaning in everything that we choose to do.

7. Taking care of ourselves

Self-care is fundamental to our happiness and overall well-being. When we take care of ourselves, we are more capable of doing the things we love, spending time with the people we care about, and pursuing our passions in life.

Health, in all aspects, can help us experience happiness to our maximum potential. So, make sure to rest and recharge before you go back to chasing that adrenaline rush!

8. Giving back

For some of us who have already achieved all sorts of happiness in life, contributing to other people’s happiness and welfare can further fuel our sense of purpose.

Whether it’s getting involved in charitable work or dedicating ourselves to helping our communities, knowing that we’ve made a positive impact on other people’s lives can bring us incomparable joy.

9. Living our purpose

Discovering our purpose is essential to finding our own happiness. When we know what we’re most passionate about and we pursue it, we gain a sense of direction and fulfillment.

Living with purpose can also make us feel like we’re needed and that we have a place in the world. These positive beliefs can ultimately lead us to live a happy and healthy life.

10. Feeling content

Contentment is often associated with a sense of acceptance and gratitude for what one has, rather than a focus on what one lacks or desires.

People can sometimes have the tendency to keep wanting more and never feel satisfied with what they have. But, to be truly happy, we must learn a valuable lesson: that good enough is good enough. Only when we find contentment will we achieve genuine happiness.

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Wrapping up

Happiness can feel different for everyone. From spending time with loved ones to achieving our goals, experiencing new things, and living our purpose, there are many factors that can contribute to our overall sense of well-being and fulfillment.

By exploring and embracing what brings us joy and contentment, we can create a life that is truly filled with happiness and meaning.

When someone asks you what makes you happy, how would you answer? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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In most scenarios like this, telling the truth and being accountable for our actions can be a tall order. But, as they say, honesty is the best policy if you don’t want to find yourself in further trouble or lose the respect of the people around you.

In this article, we will explore 10 traits of honest people and why choosing honesty is so important. If you want to attract honest people or cultivate honesty in your daily life, keep reading!

The truth behind dishonesty

It’s universal knowledge that being dishonest is a negative trait. So, why do we find ourselves inclined to do it?

Lies and deception are often associated with people who have personal agendas or hidden motives. They may have self-serving goals, so they try to manipulate a situation to their favor. Perhaps, they want to gain something or avoid the consequences of their bad behavior.

But dishonesty can also lure even the best of us. There’s a term called “prosocial lying” which is often done by people because they think that being dishonest would benefit others. The reasons behind it may include:

• Protecting others from being hurt.
• Averting someone’s stress or worry.
• Covering up another person’s mistake.

Sometimes, we lie not because we mean to deceive someone, but in order to avoid conflict and protect the relationship that we have with them. However, most people can handle hard truths more than we think. 

In a study about honesty, scientists found that avoiding honesty is often a mistake. Humans may predict certain consequences that cause them to fear being honest. But, in reality, this mindset is often misguided and can actually keep us from having enjoyable conversations and meaningful relationships.

Why choosing honesty matters

It’s not always easy to have the courage to stay honest. In my relationships, I sometimes find myself being dishonest about how I feel especially when I’m going through difficult times. Instead of being open about my struggles or saying that I felt hurt, I try my best to act normal and say, “I’m doing really well!” or “I’ll be okay!”

I would have this anxious thought that they might just worry about me unnecessarily or not care about my feelings at all. So, why bother them?

Eventually, I learned that keeping my feelings to myself or lying about my difficulties will only make things worse for me. Most of the time, I find that other people are going through the same things as I do and they tend to be more understanding than I expected.

In the end, it made me realize that being real about my struggles makes me feel less alone and allows me to get the support I need from the people who truly care about me.

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Characteristics of honest people

If you want to enrich your relationships by being in the company of honest people, here are the traits that you need to spot:

1. They are straightforward

Honest people don’t like to beat behind the bush. They say what they mean, and mean what they say. Dramatics and exaggerations are not in their vocabulary as well. They speak the truth – nothing more, nothing less.

If you want to know if someone values honesty, the first sign you need to look for is how straightforward they are with their intentions. Choose the people who don’t play mind games with you!

2. They are transparent

Transparency is an important aspect of honesty. An honest person doesn’t hide things or try to deceive others. They are open books and always willing to show their truest selves.

To test someone’s transparency, be mindful of the truths that they’re willing to share with you. Even if it’s uncomfortable or inconvenient, honest people don’t withhold information especially if it has a potential effect on you.

3. They stay out of trouble

Those who are honest tend to stay out of trouble. Because they act with integrity, they don’t usually find themselves in conflict with the people they love or those with authority over them.

If you ever meet someone who has a record of being caught red-handed, then it might be a sign that they are bad news.

4. Their words and actions are consistent

An honest person stays true to their words and follows through with actions. They keep their promises and will never leave you hanging.

Being consistent is considered a green flag in relationships. You’ll know a person is worth keeping in your life when they match what they say with how they behave. Otherwise, they might just be leading you on!

5. They take responsibility

Honest people take responsibility for their actions and their mistakes. They don’t make excuses or blame others for their shortcomings.

Even when they know they will face the consequences, an honest person will own up to what they may have done wrong and be accountable enough to make up for it.

6. They are trustworthy

Honesty is the foundation on which trust is built. When someone is known for being honest, we can depend on their words, intentions, and commitment.

On the other hand, when someone is not honest with us, it damages the trust that we have in them. We may begin to question their reliability, integrity, and truthfulness, which can strain our relationship with them.

7. They value integrity

Honest people have a strong sense of integrity, which means that they are guided by a set of moral principles and values. They do what they believe is right, even if it means going against the norm.

Even behind closed doors, someone who is honest will always stand by truth and fairness. Despite challenges and temptations, they will never compromise their morals for personal gain.

8. They are respectable

Honesty is an admirable quality. By having integrity and building trust, honest people earn the respect of those around them. They exude the kind of credibility and authority that cannot be questioned.

If gaining respect from others matters to you, committing to your words and being consistent with your values should be your top priorities.

9. They are not afraid to be vulnerable

Being honest often requires us to be vulnerable. Those who are honest have the courage to let others discover their innermost selves.

When we are honest about our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, we are revealing a part of ourselves to others, which can be uncomfortable and scary. However, this vulnerability can ultimately help us to build deeper connections with the people who matter most to us!

10. They live a peaceful life

Honesty can have a significant impact on our peace of mind. Those who always choose honesty don’t need to stress about the consequences of their wrongdoings. They don’t carry the burden that comes with deceit and guilt.

When we are honest with ourselves and others, we are not living a double life or presenting a false image of ourselves. Ultimately, this inner alignment can lead to peace of mind and a greater sense of fulfillment.

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Wrapping up

Being honest means that we have to speak our truths even in the face of temptation, hardship, and fear. We need to be mindful of how our words align with our actions and take ownership when we do make a mistake.

By practicing honesty in our own lives and valuing honesty in others, we can deepen our relationships, earn trust and respect, and live a more fulfilling life free of shame and guilt.

What does being honest mean to you? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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Loving people are those who show us kindness and patience. They stay on our side through thick or thin and make us feel appreciated and understood in all the right ways. 

Whether you are looking to improve your relationships, deepen your connection with others, or simply learn how to be a more loving person, this article will provide you with some inspiration to help you on your journey.

The benefits of being around loving people

In all kinds of relationships, being loving brings us closer to each other. Our sense of connection thrives when we offer affection, care, and support to one another.

It also goes without saying that love isn’t just limited to romantic partners. We can be loving to our friends, our next-door neighbors, and even strangers. When we show love and feel love in our everyday experiences, it also enhances positive feelings within ourselves.

A recent study on love has found that those who experienced it in their everyday interactions had higher levels of well-being that manifest in feelings of optimism and a sense of purpose. Love, in the context of this study, can be described as a “resonance” with other people, not necessarily the grand or passionate expression that we usually think of.

Because it’s possible to experience love even in the most mundane moments, we may take its benefits for granted. In case you need some reminders, here are some scientifically proven effects of love:

• It activates dopamine, the “feel-good” chemical in our brain.
• It lowers our stress levels.
• It deflects feelings of anxiety and loneliness.
• It promotes overall good health and long life.

Whether you’re giving or receiving love, it certainly creates a long-term impact that enables us to live a healthier and more fulfilling life!

An important first step of being loving

We all know the saying, “You cannot give what you do not have,” and I firmly believe in this in the context of love. 

In the past, I’ve made the mistake of giving too much of myself to others without paying attention to my own needs. And let me tell you that this is quite the recipe for disastrous relationships!

This is why, in my journey to cultivating love in every aspect of my life, I have learned that the number one step to loving is to love myself first. Sometimes, we get swept away by the affection and care that we have for other people that we forget to fill up our own cup first.

Now, I try to be mindful of my own priorities, boundaries, and well-being before offering my time and support to the people around me. This way, I know I can show my love for them in the best way possible without abandoning myself.

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Characteristics of loving people

If you want to bring more love into your life, here are the qualities that you should be looking for: 

1. They are affectionate

Loving people are not shy of showering the people they care about with affection. It’s a means of expressing their fondness and tenderness towards someone which can instantly spread positive feelings around.

Affection allows us to communicate a sense of intimacy. Whether it’s through hugging or giving gifts, it can definitely make someone feel loved.

2. They show kindness

Loving people have big hearts, and they certainly show it through kindness. They make you feel cared for through their warmth, compassion, and sincerity.

Being kind to someone is the best example of showing love in our everyday interactions. Whether you’re offering a friendly smile to a stranger or helping someone in need, your kindness can easily make anyone’s day!

3. They are always giving

Those who are loving are always ready to share their time and resources with those who may need them. They are generous and don’t expect anything in return.

However, as I mentioned earlier, loving and giving doesn’t mean that you have to end up with nothing for yourself. Make sure to recharge and honor your own needs first!

4. They are patient

Patience comes naturally to loving people. They are calm, forgiving, and allow others to heal and flourish in their own time.

In personal relationships, patience can be particularly important. It can help us to understand and accept the people around us, even when they make mistakes or behave in ways that are frustrating or difficult.

5. They are supportive

Loving people are always there for you through the good and the bad. They celebrate milestones with you and offer comfort when you’re feeling down.

Having the support of the people we love can mean the world to us. It can boost our self-esteem, help us navigate life’s challenges, and encourage us to be our best selves. 

6. They accept people for who they are

The people who are loving toward us do not expect perfection. They accept our “flaws” and see the best in us especially when we fail to do so ourselves.

If you want to be more loving, make sure that you treat people with an open mind and a soft heart. This can make the people around you feel safe and more confident about themselves. The best feeling in the world is to be loved exactly for who we are – nothing more, nothing less!

7. They have empathy

One of the sure signs that a person is loving is their ability to show empathy. People who are loving tend to be sensitive to the feelings of others and can put themselves in someone else’s shoes.

When we practice empathy, it’s easier for us to see beyond someone’s imperfections or difficulties. We can connect with them deeply and discover all the ways they need to be loved.

8. They know your worth

A person who’s truly loving knows how to appreciate another person’s worth. They don’t take others for granted, and they are always grateful for every connection that they make.

When we lose sight of the value that someone adds to our life, this may make them feel neglected and hurt. So always be mindful of giving them the attention, respect, and care that they deserve.

9. They make you feel loved

A loving person is willing to learn the love language of the people that they care about. As a result, they can make us feel loved in a way that makes sense to us.

Love can be shown in different ways to different people. Perhaps, your partner appreciates a back rub at the end of a long day. Or a friend prefers comfort over solutions when they’re going through a rough patch. Learning those little things would truly make them feel understood and cared for.

10. They show vulnerability

There’s nothing that can make someone feel loved more than being vulnerable with them. A loving person makes an effort to open up to others and share their deepest, most honest emotions with them.

As much as we are ready to give love, we should also have the openness to be loved. This means that we should be capable of taking risks and exposing our truest selves to others, no matter how difficult or scary it can be. Only then can we achieve the meaning of a truly loving relationship.

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Wrapping up

Finding people who can love us is not always easy. We have to look closer at who is willing to support us through the highs and the lows, who can value us for exactly who we are, and who will trust us enough with their vulnerable sides.

But when we do find those special people, it can be one of the most rewarding experiences of our lives and can bring us a sense of comfort, happiness, and fulfillment that is truly priceless.

Did this article remind you of the people in your life? What’s the best way to show someone that you love them? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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If you’re looking for the simplest way to describe them, “dynamic” might just be the word you’re looking for. A dynamic person is someone who is lively, active, and always striving for growth and improvement. They seek challenges and follow their passion for life.

If you want to surround yourself with such people or become one yourself, this article will help you identify what it takes to be a dynamic person!

What makes people dynamic

Dynamic people are characterized by being outgoing, enthusiastic, and adaptable to changing environments. If we try to explain this personality type, one obvious trait that may come to mind is extroversion.

Some qualities of a dynamic person that can be similar to extroverts are:

• Open and confident
• Thrives in social settings
• Seeks excitement
• Has a variety of interests
• Action-oriented

A person’s level of extroversion can have an impact on how dynamic they can be. For example, a study has found that extroverted nurses are more adaptable to sudden changes compared to those who are introverted. Extroverts are also more likely to keep up with fast-paced settings and multitasking.

But it’s important to note that being dynamic isn’t only limited to extroverted individuals. While extroverts may naturally exhibit outgoing behaviors, introverts can also manifest a dynamic character as their introspective approach can drive personal growth wherever their passions may lie.

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Challenges of being dynamic

I would describe myself as an introvert. But one aspect of being dynamic that I do see in myself is my ability to follow different passions in life. 

I have spent most of my professional life in the creative field, and have also trained in psychology, youth work, and community development in the past few years. I found purpose in making a difference in people’s lives, and it allowed me to branch out to different directions in my career.

The real challenge that I’ve experienced in being dynamic is that I have the tendency to take on different roles at once, which causes me to feel overwhelmed. This is something that dynamic people may need to watch out for.

While we thrive in new and exciting experiences, it’s also beneficial to find balance and slow down from time to time!

Characteristics of dynamic people

If you’re up for the challenge, here are some dynamic traits that you should know about:

1. They are energetic

A dynamic person is known for their energy and enthusiasm towards life. They are usually passionate about what they do and approach everything with a positive attitude.

If you want to become a more dynamic person, maintaining a high level of energy is key. But don’t forget to look after your physical and mental health while doing so!

2. They are open-minded

Many dynamic people are often curious, adventurous, and open to new experiences. They may be more willing to take risks and embrace unconventional ideas.

Being dynamic allows you to see the world from a wider perspective. Because of your open-mindedness, you’re more likely to discover exciting and progressive ways to be the best version of yourself!

If you want to learn more, here are 3 strategies to be more open-minded!

3. They are adaptable

Adapting to changes is one of the most admirable traits that dynamic people have. They have a flexible mindset and can adjust their plans according to the situation at hand.

In this rapidly evolving world, being adaptable is essential to survive. To practice adaptability, start by expanding your skill set and building resilience amidst stressful situations. These will surely come in handy when something unexpected comes up.

4. They make the first move

Dynamic people are proactive and take initiative to make things happen. They usually don’t wait on others to make a move. Instead, they embrace the responsibility of bringing goals to fruition.

Anticipating problems, taking risks, and having the guts to take a step forward are some ways that you can practice being proactive. Don’t let fear stop you from turning your vision into reality!

5. They are creative

Taking a creative and innovative approach to problem-solving comes naturally to dynamic people. They think outside the box and come up with unique solutions to the challenges that they face.

Having a dynamic person in your corner can help you succeed. Because of their resourcefulness and bold ideas, you’re likely to drive outcomes that stand out from the rest.

6. They are excellent leaders

Dynamic individuals possess excellent leadership skills. They inspire others to follow their lead and have the ability to guide a team toward a common goal.

If you want to thrive in your chosen path, having dynamic leaders as role models can be a powerful source of motivation and guidance. Pay close attention to their traits and habits, and take note of the ones that you can apply to your own leadership style.  

7. They are multitaskers

The ability to multitask isn’t for everyone. But dynamic people do tend to flourish in various pursuits and roles. They are usually multi-hyphenated, dabble in different businesses, and don’t let a single title define them.

While being dynamic can provide us with a range of opportunities and experiences, it can also be challenging to find a work-life balance. In order to accomplish your goals, make sure to manage your time efficiently and find the right people to support you.

8. They persevere

Dynamic individuals have the determination and persistence to overcome obstacles and challenges. They do not give up easily. Rather, they have the drive to keep pushing toward their desired outcomes.

As a dynamic person, you may find that there’s a lot to handle in every aspect of your life. To persevere, you must always go back to the reasons why you chose certain paths. This will help you to keep going even when things get tough.

If you want to learn more, here are 3 reasons why perseverance is so important.

9. They focus on the positives

Positivity is the foundation of a dynamic person. They need to cultivate a healthy mindset in order to take risks, adapt to changes, and handle various challenges. 

Without a positive attitude, you may find it difficult to handle the pressures and demands of a dynamic life. One way to stay positive is to focus on your strengths and accomplishments. Believe in your ability to succeed and you’re halfway there!

Focusing on the good is not just a characteristic of a dynamic person, but also that of a happy person.

10. They never stop learning

Dynamic people are always eager to learn and evolve. They are open to feedback and seek out opportunities to improve themselves.

Having different interests and passions in life will require you to keep growing. Whether it’s gaining formal training, finding mentors, or simply reading a book, taking steps to enrich your learning can propel your journey toward becoming a more dynamic person.

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Wrapping up

In conclusion, dynamic people are individuals who possess a range of skills and qualities that allow them to adapt to changing circumstances. They are creative, proactive, and able to navigate challenges with a can-do attitude.

Whether you’re seeking to find your purpose, enhance your career prospects, or build stronger relationships, embracing your inner dynamic self can help you thrive in all areas of your life.

How do you define a dynamic person? Any traits that I missed? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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This type of person can have a deep impact on our lives, often leaving us feeling drained, stressed, and discouraged. It’s important to understand the characteristics of negative people so that we can better recognize and manage our interactions with them. 

In this article, we’ll delve into the factors that breed negativity and the signs that will help us weed out people who may not have any positive impact on our lives.

The negativity bias

To explain why some people can have a particularly negative view of themselves, others, and the world, let’s turn to a relevant concept from cognitive psychology called the “negativity bias.”

Negativity bias is our human tendency to give more weight to negative information than to positive ones. We pay more attention, remember more vividly, and react more strongly to emotions or experiences that we deem bad or hopeless.

Negativity bias can also affect our social interactions, making us more likely to remember negative interactions with others than positive ones, and leading to a greater likelihood of conflicts and resentment.

This bias is thought to have evolved as a survival mechanism to help us identify and avoid potential threats or dangers in our environment.

However, in today’s world, it can lead to underestimating the probability of favorable results, which can cause feelings of anxiety, fear, and pessimism. 

According to a recent study, other reasons behind the negativity bias also stem from low self-esteem and social anxiety. This means that people who have deep insecurities or lack confidence in social interactions are less likely to believe in positive outcomes.

If we want to maintain a healthy perspective, it’s important to be aware of this bias and to consciously work to balance negative experiences with positive ones.

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Negative bias in real life

I myself am no stranger to the negativity bias. As a highly anxious person, I have the tendency to think of the worst-case scenario, believing that I always have to prepare myself for failure or rejection.

Sometimes, my anxiety and negativity can cloud my judgment and keep me from seeing all the things that are going well in my life. I can be hyper-focused on the challenges that I have to overcome and forget to take a moment to appreciate my small wins.

I wouldn’t say that anxious people are negative people. It’s just a matter of reminding ourselves that it’s okay to take a break, enjoy life, and look forward to better days!

10 characteristics of negative people

The thing about negative people is that you can easily spot them in just a brief interaction.

Here are some signs that will give them away.

1. They are pessimistic

Negative people see the glass as half-empty rather than half-full. They tend to focus on what’s wrong rather than what’s right.

If you’re frequently surrounded by negative people, you can be discouraged to look favorably at the future. So, make sure to ward off those negative vibes especially when you badly want to succeed!

We’ve written more about pessimists before, with some helpful tips on how to stop being one!

2. They always complain

Have you ever had a colleague who only whines about how hard a task is and never tries to think of a solution? Negative people think that everything in life should be easy. As a result, they tend to complain a lot even about the smallest things.

In cases like this, it’s better to avoid engaging with them and spare yourself the drama. Focus on what needs to be done instead.

3. They are judgmental

Negative people can be very critical of others. They can easily find flaws and never see the good in people. Being judgmental also keeps them from showing empathy to those they encounter.

When you’re on the receiving end of someone’s negativity, try your best not to be affected. Don’t take it personally because their criticisms are probably just a projection of their own insecurities.

In the meantime, try to practice non-judgment as a way to focus on positivity.

4. They constantly blame others

When something goes wrong, negative people instantly pass the blame onto others and would refuse to take responsibility. They like to point fingers but never at themselves.

If you ever come across this kind of person, try to stay calm and don’t waste your energy by getting too defensive. Just keep doing you, and eventually, their cracks will show in the light.

If you’re interested in learning more, here’s our article on how to take responsibility for your own actions (instead of shifting blame to someone else).

5. They bring other people down

Negative people are like crabs in a bucket. They pull others down to prevent them from succeeding. They subscribe to the idea that if they can’t have it, neither can anyone else.

Imagine having a friend who’s envious of you. You may not notice it right away, but it could be influencing you to make bad decisions or dragging you in the wrong direction. If this happens, you may need to start setting boundaries to stay on the right track.

6. They hold grudges

When someone lets negativity take over their life, they may find it hard to practice forgiveness. They can be resentful towards those who have wronged them and don’t believe that people can change for the better.

If you feel like this aspect of negativity is affecting you, learning how to let go of grudges can do wonders for your well-being. Remember that it’s never too late to bring positivity into your life!

7. They have low self-esteem

Behind their harsh exterior, negative people can be suffering from their own lack of confidence. Because they have a negative view of the world, they tend to undermine their own abilities and be critical of themselves as well.

It’s important to note that everyone has negative thoughts from time to time. But when this behavior affects the way we view ourselves and interact with others, then it’s a sign that we need to step back and reflect on how we can do better.

8. They resist change

What makes negative people distinct is their resistance to change. They can get stuck in a cycle of repeated mistakes and uncaring behavior. What’s worse is that they can pull you into this downward spiral if you’re not careful enough.

When someone refuses to make an effort to do better, you can try to suggest positive solutions to their problems. If nothing changes, at least you’ve done your part to help them!

9. They are toxic

Having negative people in your life can be extremely toxic. They can make you feel drained, unsupported, and inferior. They may even manipulate you into thinking that you are the one breeding negativity in the room.

Remember that negative people aren’t worth stressing over. Don’t let anyone question your capabilities or stomp on your hopes and dreams. Instead, focus on the people who are willing to build a healthy relationship with you.

If you want to learn more, here are 10 signs that you’re dealing with a toxic person.

10. They don’t have people who support them

There’s little wonder why negative people don’t have a lot of support around them. Their attitude can be a turn-off and prevent them from having lasting relationships.

If someone close to you is ridden with negativity, you may offer some form of encouragement and shed a positive light towards their way. However, know when it’s time to cut ties and just be better off without them.

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Wrapping up

By learning to identify negative behavior and setting healthy boundaries, we can protect ourselves from the harmful effects of negativity and maintain a more positive outlook on life. It would be wise to limit contact, focus on our positive relationships, and practice self-care when dealing with negative people.

Do these traits sound familiar to you? How else can you identify a negative person? Let me know in the comments below!

Madel Asuncion Author

Writer and advocate for young people’s mental health. Firm believer of validating one’s feelings, prioritizing the inner-self, and finding happiness in a plate of chicken curry.

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